Attempting to date vs. the struggles of being unstable
It's been 8 months ago since I was in a relationship.
I thought that since it's been a while and I feel better enough that I should start looking to make friends again and try dating. But it's difficult.
After the relationship ended I took up being sober and clean, but I also deal with some trauma associated with being around people that are drunk, and so I have difficulty being at bars/night clubs.
I'm trying online dating, but that's difficult as well since I get anxiety and depression when I try to reach out and talk to people I find attractive.
Anyways, I might be able to go see someone tomorrow to sit down for brunch. They're pretty busy though and haven't responded to texts so I'm losing hope as the time ticks closer to the meetup. Fingers crossed.
Hi @XxVidatuxX Sorry to hear that you aren't having the best of luck with dating. I'd like to offer some advice based on my own experience with the difficulties of dating if it's alright:
I think that you should consider changing your approach. The settings used to approach women do not have to be limited to drinking at a night club or online dating. What I've found to be a good balance is finding an activity you're really passionate about and focusing on that. You might be surprised to find women who either share that passion or respect you for it.
Do you play any sports? Do you like cooking? How about drawing?
@sunnyOwl2965
Thank you for the advice,
I'm gonna start looking for activities that I can do outside of the house, there's a rock climbing building that I can go to (as an activity that I enjoy), but it's pretty expensive to go there. Although I do enjoy cooking as well I haven't found a cooking club yet.
Since my semester starts in a few weeks I'll try to find some clubs/organizations that I can join that will share my interests. It'll be easier to also be on my own with my schoolwork to focus on.
Thanks for the help,
Xx Vidatu xX