Do I leave or Stay-help me
I have a lot on my mind and it's getting hard to concentrate on school or work when i just can't think past whats going on. I have a decision to make and i don't know what to do, so let me ask you what do you think.
Yesterday I got in a huge fight with my mom and she basically told me to move out, I'm fine with moving out but if I do I feel like I'm giving up on a relationship with my mom, and although a part of me doesn't care about having one, another does but I don't know what that relationship would look like. My main concern about moving out is my dog, I can't take her with me and I'm scared that if I leave I won't see her again, she's my child and my whole world, I'm scared id lose her or won't be there for her when she needs. Im also scared that if i leave it may stress my dad out and he is out of the country rn and has health issues, I dont want him to be so stressed out that he go's to the hospital. I also don't want to deal with other family members asking what happend.
The second option is for me to stay, I can stay in my room 24/7 and just be with my dog. I don't know if staying would develop the relationship with my mother but it will force me to not give it up. The benefits of staying is that I won't be paying rent and moving in the middle of a pandemic and id be with my dog.
Overall the household is pretty toxic for my mental health and I just don't feel like I belong in it, it doesn't feel like a place that I can relax in and the new place I go to may feel the same way. I am terrified that I won't be able to see my dog as often and I don't know who will be able to take care of her. I also have a lot of work that needs to be done this week which makes the time I have to pack and leave a lot less. Im tip-toeing around my house and moving would be the best decision but I'm so hesitant and scared. Im not sure why, I'v lived on my own before, I think this pandemic is really scaring me and maybe there is a part of me that wants to stay but I dont know why.
I just don't know anymore, do I leave or stay. Do you have any advice?
@callmeRM
Daughter and mom argument is common. Sometime the relationship stay like this only. But end of day it is relationship we cant deny or cut off like other non blood relationship. When they had handle our trantrum when we were small than why cant we tolerate a bit. I understand we expect our mom to be like friend accept us but sometime it dont happen even I had find difficult to adjust with my mom.
Ignoring or not taking at heart waht they say in anger is sometime a best option. Once you r independent you can move on. Right now due to covid it is not good option I feel to move out.
Give one try to know what she is expecting and see what best you can do.
As it hard to understand what you r going through I just suggest what I could take out from your msg.
Take care. It good you took intitate by posting in 7cups. Hoping their would be many who would give you helping hand to listen you and suggest you
@Maturefriends , You are so right. Mother - daughter relationship can be really challenging at times.
@callmeRM , I am glad you came on 7 cups to share your thoughts. Sometimes as you share ,you have a chance to go through your thoughts and sort things out. Hope you could chat with a listener.