Fake friend
I had a friend in high school who in the last year (right after I got my driving license) started treating me coldly and kind of ghosting me. I didn't want her as a friend anymore as well but It was hurting me when she was inviting our other friends to meetings and me no, while I was standing right next to them. She was talking about me behind my back as well. Mostly about how bad of a driver I am, even tho she's never seen me driving.
I changed the country and I'm really far away from her now but I can't stop thinking about what I did wrong and why she decided to dump me in that way.
What did I do wrong? Is something wrong with me since she didn't want to drive only with me? She didn't have a problem with any other friend. And she was telling everyone lies about me :'). She has never told me straightforward why was she doing that. Why did she just start to dislike me...
One of the answers could be that she was jealous. Because I have good contact with my mother, I have a boyfriend, I got my driving license faster than her. But our other friends also have boyfriends and good relations with parents too. Is something wrong with me? 😔
Why me... What did I do wrong.. :')
I had a similar incident which left a deeper mark inside me, one of my friend just out of blue started juging me and kinda made everyone to stop talking to me though I was the one who brought him to that friend circle. I got a little praising out of my teachers because during our sports day celebration last year I slipped off few broad stairs and got a deeper cut just above my right eye and below my eye brow and which needed stitches right away, tho I was injured I had a huge role to play on my sports day and I so continued with that which came into everyones attention.
But since he was not allowed to take part in sports day he took all his anger out on me slowly, I knew what he was doing is wrong and I couldn't have done anything to prevent it. But I ignored his actions at first but then he brought half the school including my gf and started insulting me, the thing is I didn't felt bad about him insulting me I felt bad that all others just standed their did absolutely nothing and my gf held my hand and took me to a different place where as she should have done something.
My objective of sharing my incident with you is that people tend to compare each other thus they choose their friend circle accordingly. No one in today's world is ready to loose and thus the fight gets brutal leaving scars for rest of the lives. What you can do is not be like them, because people like them are trying to be perfect which doesn't exist and we don't even know if that is human or not but WE my dear are trying to be who we actually are and "that is" humans. We can't and shouldn't even be bothered of the likes of them because we hold our future and we can not let that effect by someone who's just doing nothing but comparing and judging others upon them.
I hope this helped you, and I wish you meet people who care about you.
Regards
the0ne
@willingFig5196- we never know what is truly in another person's mind- why they gossip about us, shut us out. Perhaps she did pick up some subtle cues that you did not want to continue your friendship. Unless you were malicious towards her- then you absolutely did nothing wrong. Even though we want to figure out negative situations- it is best for ourselves to focus on those who contribute positively in our lives. Sounds like it is a good thing you have moved to a different place. Enjoy your new location- and the opportunity to meet new friends. Best wishes to you.
