Day 2 after the breakup
I slept good last night, the best sleep I’ve had since him, I have so many people around me making me feel loved, I’m keeping my head up, he kept texting me today, saying he loved me and then saying I was just like everyone else, not loyal, I found it disrespectful so I blocked him I didn’t deserve to hear those words because all I ever was when I was with him was loyal, not that he ever believed it. he always believed I was going to cheat on him, and I never gave him a reason to think that it was all in his head, it never mattered what I said, he was always going to think what he wanted to. I just hope he gets help, he called me five times this morning, he called my sister, he even texted my mama saying the same things that he would always love me and that he was in pain(all this was before I blocked him) I wasn’t going to block him but I was tired of being disrespected, I am a good person with a good heart and I don’t deserve that. He drained the life out of me, I couldn’t wear makeup, not even lipgloss or do my hair when I went out without him assuming that I was actively searching for guys, can a girl not what to look pretty or look decent for herself, to him it was always about other guys but to me it was always him. He didn’t care about that though he blamed it on his overthinking but didn’t understand how his words affected me, he would make up situations in his head that has never happened before between us and overthink about it, he would watch a video about a woman cheating on her husband and tell me about it and I would say “that’s such a horrible thing to do” and he would say stuff like “now that I watched that, I hope you will never do that” it made me feel horrible I was always questioned it made me cry, because I never felt trusted when I put all my trust in him, I would let him make any decisions he wanted because that’s how much I trusted him, but it was never the same he said he trusted me but I never felt it, he asked me what would I do if my sister got a bf and he tried to talk to me and have a conversation with me, I said “talk to him because he’s with my sister” and he said “so you would just talk to him, what if he tried to touch you or something, I can’t believe you would just talk to him” I said “if he’s with my sister why would he do those things it would just be casual conversation, why would it matter if he is with my sister” and he shut down saying that I didn’t understand and just said he was going to go to sleep, and said goodnight, he was upset but I didn’t understand why, I’m older and my thoughts were that this was childish, I left the room left him on the call to “sleep” because I never got to sleep while not being on the call or not being off the call at all during the day, I went to talk to my sister about it and she was confused too she kinda laughed, I went back to the phone to him talking about some “go to bed” and I just said “I’m not tired so no, you go to bed” he said it again, he literally stayed up because I wouldn’t go to bed, it wasn’t healthy, I just wanted him to go to bed so that I could be alone for awhile, I never got to be alone, even wanting to watch a movie with no device just me and my sister and he cried and was overthinking the whole I was watching the movie with her so I didn’t get to enjoy it, he didn’t understand that I wanted to be off the call away from him to spend time with my sister just me and her, he wanted to be the center of attention, he was mad the whole time. I need some more mature someone who doesn’t get lonely or cry when they are alone, someone who loves themself but in a way where they drink water and take care of themself, I know now what I need in a relationship but I know what I want to do for rn, I want to take time for myself, focus on school, graduate and figure what I want to major in, today is the start of a new journey for me, it’s time I enjoy it rather then having to focus on anyone else but myself