Tips on AroAce spectrum dating?

Hi! Since I was sixteen I've identified as grey-asexual because I don't have an interest in sex but I could consider it under specific circumstances or in certain very rare moods, but I usually just say I'm asexual. However I'm also Aroflux, so sometimes I have interest in being romantic and having a romantic partner but sometimes I really don't and I'm opposed to any affection. I know that's a lot of flip-floping up and down to ask of someone, but between that and being non-monogamous, I'm pretty confident I could meet the right person to make it work with.

How do I go about finding this right person? I've tried online dating before and I just find it difficult to connect with new people over text, but I have no idea how else to go about it. I also want to have anyone I date know what they're getting into right away, but I don't want to overwhelm potential partners. I've never dated anyone and I don't have any friends so I'm completely lost here

Does anyone have tips for dating when you're on the aroace spectrum?