Looking for someone to talk to
Hi! I'm new to this site and want to start meeting people I can talk to. I'm 41, gay, and living in a very rural area (moved from a big metro area a few years ago). I'm a caretaker for three people in my family, and since I don't have my friends here, so it can get pretty lonely. I'm trying to better myself in many ways, and I think this is a good place to get support. I'd love to hear from you if you're in a similar situation, or if you'd just like to chat.
@pioneeringFig3845hi
@GoodTrouble19 Hi!
@pioneeringFig3845
how are you?
@GoodTrouble19 Hi! I'm hanging in there, taking one day at a time. How about you?
@pioneeringFig3845 I’m ok, could be better
Hello. I would love to chat one on one. Feel free to drop a message whenever you like.
@preetz46Yes, we can definitely chat here!
@pioneeringFig3845
hi 32 trans pansexual
@GoodTrouble19 Nice to meet you!
I’m happy to help crate queer community for others who also don’t have local access.
I’m 41, bi/pan, in a committed relationship with a fully supportive partner, but not fully out.
@newPagin7287 It's great to have a place like this when there is limited opportunity in the "real world".
@pioneeringFig3845 A couple things resonated with me. I was a caretaker for an elderly parent for a few years. It's hard for one too understand what that's like. When raising children, normally you gradually watch them get better over time. However as a caretaker for elderly, it's the opposite, you watch them slowly get worse over time. Part of you never gets over that experience.
I recently, FINALLY acknowledged to myself a few years ago that I'm Bi, and I don't hear many talk about a "scale", however i believe there is. Men fall on this scale either extreme Hetero or extreme Gay. I'm guessing 70% of men fall somewhere in a broad range in the middle, maybe more. ME, I think I'm about .75 Gay, and .25 hetero. I live in a rural area too, and cannot host. If I could be set free, I'd probably be %95 Gay and %5 hetero. 😮
@adventurousWest3027 What you said is definitely true about being a caretaker for a parent or older person. It can be very tough to watch someone you've known all you life keep getting worse.
Self-acceptance is so important, and congratulations on being able to accept yourself. I accept me being gay, but I still find it difficult to talk about, even with the most supportive people I know. Probably has to do with past experiences. I think a lot of people's sexualities are on a spectrum. I've never been interested in women in the past, but you never know.
@pioneeringFig3845 Hi, feel free to message me too, if such thing is possible here :)
@lavenderFig6865 Hi! I don't think we can message directly, but we can talk on the boards or in the chats. Maybe I'll see you on the boards :-).
@pioneeringFig3845
welcome welcome glad to have you here
hope you have fun in the community
@scorpionpolktanktree Thank you! I'm am slowly starting to get involved, but I'm having fun so far 😃
@pioneeringFig3845 Rural areas can be lonely.
@forcefulOrange2220 They definitely can be, especially when it's difficult being openly gay. Not everyone is like this, of course, but there is a lot of small-mindedness around. At least I get to talk to some of my friends who don't live nearby, but it isn't the same as being able to physically spend time together. Are you in a rural area?
@pioneeringFig3845
🧐Hello there,
A lot of things change in life, and slowly, I have lost my connections and become very socially withdrawn. Also, constantly have to face challenges in life; in other word not many positive things happen that I can share with others. So it's just a vicious cycle that does not help with life.
I work in the healthcare industry, so I guess I understand your stress as a carer.
I am currently watching the pitt which is quite nice. If you have any interesting movies or serises please share as well. As I am running out of things to watch as well 😉
@easyWatermelon4288
Hi!
I feel the same way about becoming socially withdrawn. While part of me wants to make and keep those connections with friends, part of me has stopped caring about that. I feel like I'm digging into my own little world, for better or worse. I also don't want to seem like I'm complaining all the time. I mean, there are good things happening in my life, but I wish I was able to talk more openly about the struggles without alienating others.
I try to watch things and read to take my mind off things, too. I have a bad habit of watching and rewatching shows that I've seen hundreds of times before, so I'm trying to branch out. I jumped on the Heated Rivalry bandwagon, and I was not disappointed 😃. The first few episodes are slow, but especially the last two episodes make it all worth is. I haven't seen Pitt, but I should give it a try!
@pioneeringFig3845
