Realized I’m gay…just moved in w/ roommates
So I was questioning my sexuality for the past 3 years and after some deep reflect within the last 2 months, I’ve come to realize that I’m gay. I just moved into a three bedroom house with 2 straight roommates, who also happen to be my business partners, and they have no idea. I know if I told them it wouldn’t ruin either our friendships or professionally relationships but it’s so new to me that I’m not totally comfortable/confident about it. I’ve only experimented with men a handful of times and I’m excited to explore but I obviously lack the privacy/space at home that I would need in order to feel comfortable expressing myself sexually with another man. Keeping my circumstances in mind, do any of you have suggestions that may have helped you gain comfortability and confidence in your homosexuality while staying private/on the DL? Maybe even when you had roommates that you didn’t want to tell quite yet? Any advice is greatly appreciated.
Hello @adaptableMaple1899
Don't feel pressured to come out if you don't want to! You are under no obligation to tell anyone and have the right to come out to whoever you want, whenever you want. While I have never been in a situation like yours before, please know I am here for you <3
@adaptableMaple1899 I've not been quite in that situation before but one of the things that helped me come more to terms with myself was buying my first prostate massager. It felt like the first step I took myself and it let me feel confident that I didn't have to have someone else come around to satisfy me if I got the urge. Being able to take ownership of my sexuality like that really helped me to get a handle on it without having to make anyone feel awkward or have an awkward conversation topics. Plus they are usually easy to keep hidden without much effort and shouldn't be an issue drawing attention to yourself. I hope things go well!