Confused
I’m a cisgender lesbian and I’ve been question my gender identity and sexual orientation all day. I am comfortable in both which is why I am so confused. I’ve had thoughts about being with feminine men, that’s the only time I am comfortable having sexual and romantic thoughts about men. Also I’ve had thoughts of being a feminine trans man in a relationship with a man. This confuses as i thoguht I was a lesbian and cisgender. I don’t know if it’s non binary/gender fluid/ trans, I don’t know if this is a genuine attraction to feminine men which lesbians have said a non genuine attraction is a sign they were lesbian, I don’t know if I just want to be a masculine presenting woman with feminine qualities. Thoughts?
Hello @enthusiasticPal2491
It sounds like you have identified as a cisgender lesbian but are starting to question both your gender and sexual orientation. This can be a really frustrating process, so I'm glad you are reaching out for support! Unfortunately, I can't give you an answer to your questions. Only you can know what you are. Remember, you have your whole life to figure this out. Understanding your identity and coming out is not a race, so please take your time! Also, there is nothing wrong with experimenting with labels. Feel free to change them as often as you need. You don't even need to use labels if you would prefer! All this being said, I'll leave some resources for you that you might find helpful about sexual/romantic orientation, gender identity, and gender expression. Let me know if you need anything <3
