i need awnsers-
Hello people of 7 cups so i have a question-
is it safe to bind?
yes or no most people say no and their are many opions on it
but i need to know for the sake of my sanity im a trans guy and im 15 almost 16 and i should stop growing this year im small for my age a lil over 100 pounds you see and like i said im small for a 15 y/o (female) but like i am so insecure abt this also
i want to comeout to my grandparents mainly my grandfather he rased me for sometime when i was younger (i am adopted btw) and i want him to know me the real me not how he does currently i want him to know me as Noah his grandson not (insert irl deadname here) his grand'daughter'
in all i just need help with this sh-t
@NoahAnimates
Hello Noah,
It's important to prioritize your well-being and safety. When it comes to binding, it's generally recommended to do so with proper methods and precautions. Binding can help alleviate dysphoria for some individuals, but improper binding techniques can lead to health risks. If you're considering binding, it's crucial to research safe practices, use appropriate binders, and listen to your body. You might want to consult with a medical professional or a gender-affirming specialist who can provide guidance tailored to your situation.
Coming out to your grandparents is a significant step, and it's great that you want to be your true self with them. Take your time to plan how and when you want to approach the conversation. If you're comfortable, you could educate them about being transgender and share your feelings. Having a support network of friends, family, or even online communities can also be beneficial during this process.
Remember, you're not alone in this journey. Seeking guidance from knowledgeable and supportive sources can help you navigate these challenges. Your well-being matters, and taking steps toward being your authentic self is important.
@justjack2001
thanks a lot this is helpful i feel like coming out tmr because i will be having lunch w/ them but i will approach the situation with caution
@NoahAnimates
You're welcome! It's great that you're planning to come out. Remember to approach it in a way that feels comfortable and safe for you. Good luck with your lunch and the conversation! If you need any advice or support, feel free to ask.
@justjack2001
thanks so much this will help a ton!
@NoahAnimates
There are many considerations when approaching binding and it does have potential risks or side effects. This thread discusses some of the things to think about when considering binding: https://www.7cups.com/forum/lgbtq/DiscussionsandResources_2305/ChestBinding_289997/
Coming out to family can be a big decision with potential for a lot of stress if it goes poorly, I often encourage those around me to have a firm plan in place for worst case scenarios prior to coming out, even while they hope for the best outcome. It's regrettable that this kind of planning is necessary but safety and security are most important.
So with that in mind what do you feel would be the worst case? How might you deal with that if it were to happen? What are things that would help you to cope with any possible outcome good or bad?
@NoahAnimates
hi noah!! binding can be safe and it can also be unsafe!! it all depends on the rules you follow. there are some basic rules to follow!
here are a few i go by -
if something hurts or is uncomfortable stop wearing it. take a break. then go back to it if you want to.
no exercising while binding unless using something that does not restrict all the way around your chest and back.
use safe and established brands.
do not wear for more than 8 hours 12 at the very most!!
listen to your body!! do whatever feels best and works best for what you are doing!! be safe. as safe as possible. this is really important because it can permanently mess your skin elasticity up, bruise ribs, or something else as scary if you aren't careful and safe!!
good luck!!
@NoahAnimates
I understand that this is a deeply personal and sensitive topic for you. Binding can be a way to alleviate gender dysphoria and feel more comfortable in your body but it's important to use safe binding practices to minimize any potential risks. Make sure to choose a binder that is the correct size, don't wear it for extended periods of time, and listen to your body. If you experience any discomfort or difficulty breathing, take breaks and give your body a rest. Also, if possible, consult with a healthcare professional who is knowledgeable about transgender health to ensure you're binding safely.
I totally get why coming out to your grandparents is a big deal for you. You want them to see and accept the real you, Noah, instead of seeing you as your old self. It can be helpful to plan the conversation in advance and consider their perspectives and potential reactions. If you have a support system of friends, family, or LGBTQ+ support groups, lean on them for guidance and emotional support.
Just remember, you're valid and deserving of love and acceptance. This journey may have its highs and lows, but there are resources out there to help you navigate it. You've got this, Noah! Stay true to yourself, take care of yourself, and keep being the amazing person you are.
@NoahAnimates
It takes a lot of courage to share your thoughts and feelings, especially on such important topics.
Let's talk about binders. Safety is paramount, and it's understandable that you want to be sure about this. Binders can be a helpful tool for many trans folks, but using them correctly is essential. It might be a good idea to consult with a healthcare professional who specializes in transgender health. They can provide guidance on how to use a binder safely and address any concerns you might have.
Coming out to your grandparents is a big step, and I admire your desire to have them know and accept the real you, Noah. It's a meaningful conversation, so planning it carefully can make a difference. Choose a comfortable and private setting and remember that people may react in various ways. Your grandfather might need some time to process this information, so patience is key.