Boyfriend troubles
Ok so am I the a hole. My boyfriend constantly gets messages from a guy that he used to hook up with before we met. He says he ignores these messages (usually requesting to meet) I said to him that I would just prefer he blocked him as it was making me a little jealous (I’m normally not a jealous person at all) he said he had but then I noticed he still has him on *** so I’m now doubting whether he even blocked his number. He’s also liked some of his more recent photos since I expressed my feelings toward him. I hate how this is making me feel as I have never been like this before and I’m kinda feeling like my man has no respect for me with this. What’s are your guys thoughts?
Hi there! I think your frustration is stemming from the feeling of dissonance between wanting your boyfriend to create distance between himself and this other person and feeling like maybe that request is exaggerated or unjustified. But I think it's totally justified, especially if it's hurting you and causing you to not act like your normal self. When we find ourselves feeling frantic and confused in this way, it's often because our needs are not being met and we're having to diminish ourselves in some way. I would try bringing up the subject again and encouraging him to be honest with you. Nonetheless, you're completely justified and my partner doing this same behavior would upset me too.