Dating in 2024, am I doing something wrong?
It seems like every time I try to put myself out there, I keep getting nothing but guys who only want to hookup. It seems like nobody wants a relationship or dating with substance anymore, is it just me or is that the general consensus of how things are right now?
@fuzzyclamp
I cannot say I have much experience with dating myself, even when I was still looking it was often "where do you even find potential dates?" As online dating services seemed to be more about something other than building a meaningful relationship even then. I would go to various events and at the one everyone close to my age or younger would ask "where do we find other people our age?" So if anything I would say the struggle you are having isn't a new one. In fact every time I have found a meaningful relationship has been when I wasn't looking for one, and it just happened.
Perhaps others will have more ideas about how to succeed in your search, but ultimately I would say even if the majority of people you meet want something more transient, there are still others out there who like you are searching for something more lasting and meaningful, the challenge is finding them when they are likely just as tired of the search as you.
So, if they were to say 'where would they find you', what would your answer be?
Hi @fuzzyclamp
I totally got you in here, and I was wondering the same for some moment, and I thought that this is how world is going and that I was so into romantic stories and I thought it only happens in movies and books, and that our parents and our ancestors who had lasting relationships only did so because of moral, social or religious obligations when we are the generation that obey no rules..etc. until I got to hear some beautiful stories from my friends, and I got to see some really healthy and meaningful relationships in the streets. Love is still alive in 2024.
One quite I noticed is that online social media or dating apps are usually filled with people looking for sex, either exclusively or within a relationship but as a priority. The greatest way to avoid that misunderstanding is to start as friends first, then see if you like each other and feel like ready to move on to next step (like using friends-meeting apps or pen pal webs instead of dating apps, or to make friends in school/clubs/community..etc.)
Please feel free to reach me out if you feel like talking to a listener! Have a nice journey searching your soulmate! :)