Am I being used?
Hi. So I have been with my girlfriend for 7 months now. She had a bad housing situation so she ended up moving in with me about 2 months into our relationship. Everything was great, she was amazing and sweet and excited to see me when I got home from work. (She currently does not work, which hasn’t bothered me)
Lately, she has wanted her long time bestfriend to move in with us to help with bills and she says it’s to benefit me since she doesn’t work. However, when this friend was here to visit, I became the third wheel. I was not included in conversations regarding her moving here until things were already figured out.
Now, my gf barely communicates with me over anything. No calls while she’s traveling out of town, texting to check in is like pulling teeth but she does that to her friend. She calls her while traveling, will text her constantly and tell her things about her day. I am not jealous of their communication, however, she’s in the relationship with me so she needs to be communicating with me as well. I have just felt very used and not great about things. When I try to talk to her about them she tells me I’m overthinking and reading into things and that that is what’s upsets her.
I feel like I am all in but she’s not. Am I being used?
@stardust1399 Has the other person moved in already?
This weekend. She’s on her way
@stardust1399 This sounds like a real mess. It’s hard to tell if you’re being used, but assume you have both of them there and then you decide it’s not working out? Was this billed as “temporary” because if I couldn’t say I changed my mind, I would say “my house, and this is the amount of time you may stay.” Of course, if you are being used, then they might ignore that as well, or they will manufacture a hard luck story to extend the stay.
@stardust1399 Don’t have either of them on the lease.
@stardust1399 And you might even use the lease as a way to say, whoops, sorry your friend can’t come, it would violate the lease I have. Only 2 ppl allowed.
I own the house. It’s more of not wanting this to impact our relationship to where we aren’t even in a “relationship” anymore if that makes sense. I feel like I’m naive and just dumb and in love and looking for the best in her and in reality it may be toxic? I don’t know
@stardust1399 Yeah I get it. Best of luck with this situation.
