Gender and Sexuality
I think that i am asexual. i don't know how i'm gonna find out for real but for the moment i like to not specify. it becomes super awkward when someone asks me if i have a girlfriend and stuff like that. i am also born a male, but i don't know if i am a male. i don't think i even want to be a man. i'm in a really confusing spot where i don't know how to identify myself and i tend to feel lost. i think for the moment i'm not gonna label myself though. i'm scared if i "come out" and it turns out i was gay or something it would look like i want attention. i would like to know if there is anyone else who is experiencing the same thing.
@anonemousee
It's completely valid to not use any labels. Either for the time or forever. And it's also completely valid and natural to be questioning sexual orientation and gender identity. Take all the time you need to figure yourself out and don't worry about comming out or putting yourself in a box. There is really no pressure for you to do that, so don't put that strain on yourself. It's okay.
I suggest that you gather as much information as possible on all sorts of genders and sexual orientations. Knowing what's out there and what things really mean, can help you get in the right direction. But the best tip I can give you, is to talk to many queer people in forums and chats.
So many have been in a place of self-confusion and your story will likely sound familiar to someone further along on their journey. If you're wondering if you're asexual, talk to people who are. If you're wondering if you might just be gay instead, talk to people who are gay. And if you wonder if you may not be a cis man, talk to people who are not cis either.
Trust me, their self-discovery stories and perspectives as different kinds of queer people are worth gold when you are questioning yourself.
Knowing what you're experiencing isn't easy to pinpoint if you don't know it any different. But when many people with the same experiences have the chance to come together, it all becomes much clearer for everyone.
If you have any questions about asexuality, feel free to ask away! As a fellow asexual I'd love to help you out.
And I'm also aromantic and agender if you have follow up questions for those identities as well.
I'd love to see you around in the 'LGBTQ+ / MOGII Support' group chat. It's the perfect place to meet other queer and questioning people that can help you figure yourself out!
Good luck on your journey! 💚💚