My Acceptance but Hers???

I am still trying to figure out a lot about myself as a bi queer cys born male. Accepting i am more feminine inside and allowing the sissy in me to come out more to be open with others such as all the wonderful people on here, my friends, and of course my family. I do not know if traditional marriage is right for me and i know its okay. I really do not know what i want because i do love my wife but she hurts me with the narrow minded things she says whether out of anger or spite. It’s like im not gonna apologize for being me, i am sorry she feels hurt but i had to tell her. I felt like i was dying inside. Am i wrong in any of this?

how long should i wait before making any life altering devisions because i dont know.