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Uncertainty about my sexuality

Hiya my name is Lily! I’m 17 and have been out and proud as lesbian for the past 2 years, but recently something happened that made me question my sexuality again.

You see, there’s this guy I know from theatre club and recently we started texting over ***. Nothing much, just some light conversation. He‘s been very sweet to me, often asking how I‘m feeling and offering support which just means so much to me. I had a depressive episode recently, which was when we started texting. He‘s been so supportive as he also struggles with mental health. I generally enjoy his company and adore what I‘ve seen of his personality so far.

Today, I had theatre club, and he was there too. We talked a bit and joked around and the usual stuff, but I feel like he was a bit more touchy today than usual? There was this one time, where he quickly held me by my waist, and for some reason that gave me major butterflies. Does that mean I‘m bisexual? I‘ve never had that kind of experience with a guy.

It might also be worth to mention that he‘s trans ftm. I‘ve kind of been beating myself up over getting butterflies because of him, because I thought maybe it‘s because my brain doesn’t accept his gender identity fully? But I do see him as a guy, don’t get me wrong!! Am I transphobic? Or just bisexual? Help!!

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User Profile: enbyNova
enbyNova May 10th, 2023

@persistentChestnut5099

I don't think you're transphobic at all.

It could be that you are bisexual, but you also could be pansexual, or just simply exploring. Give it some time. I'm here if you want to talk more. :)

User Profile: SwanOfAges
SwanOfAges May 10th, 2023

Your identity is yours! Whatever feels right for you IS right. Of course, it’s still an LGBT relationship either way. Feel no pressure to conform to a label if you’re not comfortable with it ✨