Working out if im aroace
Hi so im a sixteen year old girl and ive always felt like weird about relationships and stuff. Ive always felt like i was broken or there was something wrong with me because girls my age talk about crushes and people they find attractive and i just don't feel that. Like girls my age are in serious relationships and are having sex and stuff and i just can't feel anything like how they do. I have no crushes and i never have. I dont find people attractive i just think people yk look normal. Like theres nothing special about them. Like i thought i liked this boy back in january but after the first week i realised i was just forcing myself to like him so i could feel like i fit in with everyone else and join their talks about boys and stuff. I want a boyfriend but like i dont feel anything towards romance. Like i just feel neutral about romance. People will talk about how much they love their partners and how they kiss and stuff and i just dont understand. I dont understand how someone enjoys kissing and things and i dont realt understand relationships which has lead me here to ask for advice because i think i may be aromantic and asexual but im not too sure and i wanted other peoples experiences on how they discovered that they were aroace. Thank you
@Bttfaddict
You are young.
It's normal to explore, ask questions, not be sure about things.
When we have very little experience, it's common we don't know if we'll like something or not.
Theres no rush to know what you like or don't like.
You'll know when the time is right.
Sometimes it falls into place with the right person.
But no matter what, know, you are perfect as you are and you'll be fine no matter what your sexuality is 💜💕
Hey, i totally get you! Dont pressurs yourself. Let your friends be. It's all ok.
I was in the same situation so i totally get you, my friends asked me: dont you worry that yiu havent kissed and youre already 16... Yeah, that litterally happened... But i dont approve that.
Its, of course, possible that you are aroace or asexual, but i think you shouldnt hurry with labeling yourself as something, but rather just give yourself freedom to feel and to decide.
Because, really, more time has to go by.
Im 20 now and i still havent had my first kiss.
But that is mostly because i let myself realize that im actually a lesbian.
I also thought about being asexual, because i havent had any love interests...
Still, its area to explore, im giving myself freedom to explore my sexuality more and more and more...
I dont know was this helpful to u, since you wanted some experiences from aroace or asexual ppl, but since i had a similar experience, i thought it might come out to you as calming or reassuring... in some way...
Sending all the love! And dont worry! Life is ahead of you - and that is a BEAUTIFUL thing!
