I need to ask someone about this

It's absolutely normal honey. I know someone who is lesbian but attracted to same part of trans people, not whole (I hope I helped)

Before I knew i was a lesbian I had dated like 4 guys through High School but each one of them were very feminine, but I never was sexually attracted to them at all !! The closest I've ever gotten to having a gf was best friend and highly attracted to woman . You're definitely not the only one.

@JenCHo

Hi, Jen!

Attraction and identity often operate independently of one another. This is completely normal and does not necessarily change your orientation or preferred labels. Many straight women experience same sex attraction but never act on it, lesbians fantasize about men, and gay men dream about women. Fantasies are subjective to pretty much anything your mind can invent, but it doesn't necessarily exclude you from one group or another. Absolutely common, normal, and healthy! ❤️

@JenCHo

Hi Jen.

I'm a lesbian and I'm pretty attracted to Harry Styles, so I can kind of understand.

I still identify as a lesbian and I'm still perfectly comfortable with that label. I am capable of finding men attractive without necessarily being attracted to them, and there's a distinct difference to me. I don't want to romantically/sexually interact with men, even the ones I find really attractive. I hope this makes sense and maybe helps.
if it turns out you're bi or something else, that's cool too! Just remember there's nothing wrong with the feelings you have.

By best friend, lesbian, series nerd, came to me with the same question. So the answer is no you're not the only one. ♥️

@JenCHo

Well, im still figurimg out, i think im a lesbian too, but there are like 2 character who i like in a romantic way (in real life i dont feel things like that to men) so, you are not alone with that one.

@JenCHo

Something a lot of young people don't understand, that I wish someone had explained to me sooner too, is that "attraction" to cartoon/anime characters, video game characters, fictional characters in books, original characters and other figments of your imagination, TV and movie characters, actors, musicians, and other celebrities...........none of this is "real" attraction, as in, none of these are part of your sexual orientation.

(If you actually know a celebrity to the point where you'd be aware of them and attracted to them even if they weren't a celebrity, that's different. People you have literally never met in person, or they like signed their book for you once and that's it, don't count. They're real people in their own lives, but they're effectively as real *to you* as a cartoon character.)

Sexual orientation is about a chemistry that exists between you and real people you exist in the same world with. People you could actually meaningfully talk to and kiss. People that, if you flirted with, there's a *chance* they might flirt back.

Celebrities, cartoons, et al, are "safe." You can crush on them to your heart's content, and there's no risk they'll return your interest. There's no risk you'll get in over your head and have to actually go further with them or disappoint them. Things can't get "too real" with them, and they don't have inconvenient opinions or habits of their own that challenge you. They're just very comfortably in a safe love object space, where you can practice having feelings without getting hurt.

Being "attracted" to a gay TV show character can mean a lot of things. It could mean that you simply *like* this character a lot, and the borders around "liking" are blurry and end up feeling a lot like attraction. You could be narratively excited by the character, you could relate to the character a lot and project onto him and get catharsis from his stories (projection onto fiction is often a far more sexual experience than anyone gives it credit for--what is porn, in the end, but a fantasy you're intended to project onto?) or anything like that. There's no chance that this gay fictional character is going to put you on the spot by returning your feelings. But if you enjoy projecting onto him, you could feel that as attraction, or feel attracted to situations where he's with men he's attracted to, even though the real you doesn't want either of these men, you're lost in the head of a fictional gay man who's into it. Stories often work exactly like that, it's part of the empathy inherent to fiction.

Whatever those feelings are, that delight in a fictional character is a completely different thing from the feeling you'd get with a real live human being you really for real want to be with.

Also, this isn't unusual. Lesbians often gather around M/M narratives, both because it's relatably gay, and because F/F stuff tends to attract too many straight men. It's easier for lesbians to enjoy themselves and court each other if the only men around are just paying attention to the other men and leaving them alone. M/M fandom spaces have always been overflowing with wlw.

@JenCHo Hi Jen. There is no right or wrong way to feel attracted to someone, and it is okay to be attracted to someone because they are gay. Everyone has their own unique attractions and preferences, and it is important to respect and accept those differences. You are not alone in feeling this way.