Needed time
My gf and I have been together for almost 4 years. We have token breaks because she asks for them. Sometimes it gets overwhelming for her since it’s her first serious relationship. On the 1st she asked for a break, truthfully I don’t think this is due to a 3rd person. She’s been acting more distant this time yet she drops hints here and there. I got my cards read and they told me she would be back. I don’t know how to be patient. I’m trying to give her time but I’m constantly having negative thoughts I don’t know how to keep myself busy
Have you asked her why she feels the need for a break? Also, I recommend you have a sit down with her and ask her what her goal is for having these breaks, what is it that she needs. It’s also ok to ask her what her intentions are with you so that you don’t sit around waiting for her. Communication is a huge reason for relationships to fall apart. As her questions, get specifics. If she says something like she needs space, ask her what that looks like. Ask for details until you both understand what she’s going through. In the process, check in with yourself to make sure that you are also taking care of yourself and your own needs. There are many ways to have space in a relationship that doesn’t include one person feeling out in the dark. Verbalize your feelings. Maybe she is only seeing how she feels and doesn’t think that you are suffering in this process.
