The one that got away?
I feel bad for being here with this on my mind but if I dont talk to someone I'm going to implode.
Im 32 years old now and I've been dating an amazing girl(26) who loves me endlessly for a year now. I am happy, I truly am, I have never trusted anyone with my heart as much as I trust her. But...
Lately I've been thinking about the past alot. Someone I dated about 7 years ago. I was alot younger and I keep going over why we broke up in my head and questioning if I miss her and if things would have worked out differently if we met at a different time in our lives, would we have lasted if we were as mature as we are today... she's in a long term relationship of about 6 years. We dont communicate at all but lately ive just been thinking about her all the time, I really love the girl im with and there should be no reason for me to feel this way but these thoughts and feelings about my ex bother me, why is this happening, what should I do? :(
Hey,
I had a relationship like that too a few months ago. It ended and he didn't even told me he broke up with me he just blocked and ignored me. I really loved him and it broked my heart. I can't talk to someone about my problems and its hurting me a lot.
But im sure that you are able to solve the problem of yours. I think it could sound a bit hard of me but you can and should talk to your girlfriend about it. In my opinion an open and trustfull relationship is a good one. As you mentioned you can trust her - so you really should talk to her about it. I think getting hugged by the person you love is the best way to get away from the ones you loved earlier.
I think the reason why you think about the person you loved is because you want her back. I still want my ex friend back too but i know its not the way i should take. I think it was my mistake that he left me but what i think doesnt matter - im a broken soul i would decide that way even if its the wrong decision. Thats why i know its wrong.
Because i don't know much about your situation you should talk with your girl about it. As i mentioned the hard part is the part that comes now -> if your feeling that you want to keep your secrets its hard to be in a good relationship. It maybe sound like a little information but relationships of that kind are something that shouldn't be untold. So if your feeling unsure about it your not through it yet… You need to wonder whats going on in your partners head. She probably think you keep secrets and don't fully trust her.
but hey! Im sure your a person who is okay with talking to someone about your problems. Its your partner telling the truth isn't bad for you because it wasn't your fault. And your partner will help you as much as she can because she don't want you to leave her.
so i hope i didn't forget something but if i did you can ask me if course. Its nothing you have to do - and also its nothing that could happen. Im not experienced in relationships because mine was -. Im not feeling good about just tell you that like an order so be sure what you should do. If i would be you i would do it that way because even in my relationship talking about my problems with my friend helped me a lot.
