Can frayflux people date?
I found out that I'm frayflux-romantic. But my attraction stays most of the time and other times will fade but rarely. And I wanted to know if I could actually date someone. Cause people say the attraction fades but I just wanted to know. Any and all help is appreciated. Thank you.
@thebookwrm
While frayflux people typically experience diminishing attraction I don't think that would mean you can't date, but it may mean that you will struggle with any long-term relationship if/when the attraction fades. But not everyone is looking for a long term relationship, and even people who aren't frayflux sometimes find their attraction fades as people grow and change. But ultimately yes people who identify as frayromantic, fraysexual or frayflux can and do date.
But is there a term where you fall in love instantly sometimes but then you have too get to know them to like them? Like a term that's both fray and demi? Cause I've been also experiencing both. But also with me being frayflux I even if I have broken up with someone or a a crush on someone I still like them even if I happened a while ago. So I'm not sure if I'm fray but I could be and I don't want to feel like I have to put a label on myself, cause I don't have to but it would make it much easier for me to explain it. If that makes sense idk. I apologize if you don't understand or something.
@thebookwrm
Do you find the feelings fade when they are reciprocated? For example, lithromantic - feeling romantic attraction that fades upon being reciprocated.
No i like when the feeling is given back(if that makes sense) idk I mean it fades but something specific has to top happen. I don't know I feel like I'm just confused or I'm confusing you. Maybe I'm not valid either
@thebookwrm
It sounds like it may just be that relationships and feelings sometimes fade, often due to some reason that changes our relationship, which I'm not sure would be fray at all, just the nature of relationships?
@thebookwrm
Also it's okay to not label yourself, you don't have to have a label, they don't define who we are, sometimes they can help us understand ourselves better by helping us look at the various dimensions of attraction, but that doesn't mean we have to pick one or try to fit ourselves into one at all.
