In the closet
I recently got a girlfriend, and me and her aren’t really open about our sexualities (lesbian). She’s not really out to anyone besides close friends and stuff, and I want her to take her time and pressure her to do anything, but it still kind of feels like I’m a secret. Not to mention her love language is very different than mine, so sometimes I just feel like she doesn’t have the same feelings I do to her. Am I being over-dramatic?
@amanzachrish0
Hello!
I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling like a secret, and perhaps a little discouraged. Have you thought to discuss how you are feeling with your girlfriend?
And as for having different love languages, I've had relationships where my partner and I share the same language(s) or have different ones. From my experience, I don't think similarity or difference has mattered all that much for me in how great our relationship is, but what has mattered is the effort we both go to, to honour each others love language. Maybe this is something you may want to also discuss with your girlfriend?
Sending you positive thoughts,
Blake 🌼