How to get women attracted to me?
I am a 21 year old man who has never had a gf. I just wanna experience love, sex, and intimacy but im shy, am broke, have shattered self confidence due to bullying. i keep crying about it and feel miserable. I have been going to a therapist but it isnt working. I need help with women. I talk to them like people but im still having issues.
@communicativeScarf1641
Hello. So, you would like to receive some magic key to open the door that lots of men struggle to open through their entire adult life? I am afraid it is not so easy 😊
Of course, there are some basics: Most women prefer men who are clean and shaved (unless you are wearing a beard), smell good, have their shoes tidy and do not look shabby (forget about black t-shirts and camouflaged shorts 😉).
If you treat a woman like your friend or sister, most possibly she will treat you like a friend, not like a person of romantic value. It may work great to remove your fears about approaching a woman, but will not take you there.
I would be very careful about reading any handbooks written by self-claimed "dating gurus", they are usually full of lies, and what they sometimes suggest might be criminal...
There are different kinds of men and different kinds of woman, so what is right and nurturing to one connection doesn't have to work for another.
I think the most universal suggestion would be: be yourself and learn to accept yourself—because other people may come and go, and you have entire life to live with your humble person on board 👍
I feel the same way and I'm 19. Most of the girls I tried to talk just destroyed my heart from the beginning. Didn't even have a chance.
@indigoBanana3891
I am sorry you have to feel like that 😔
I don't know your story, but what comes to my mind while reading your message:
Unfortunately, some social media or mass media platforms passively promote disrespect of one gender against another. And this pattern is carried on to the real life...
Also, there is a thing called hypergamy—some people want to quickly improve their material and social status by meeting someone from the upper "caste", so people believing in normal values can be like invisible to them.
But I believe there are still people who are craving for closeness and appreciate emotional connection. Often they just cannot (or don't need to) advertise themselves as much 😊
I think our partner expectations also change with our age. When I turned 40 I soon realised that some of my crush choices I made being 20 could be totally disastrous later in my life.
Thanks man cuz the girls I met were pretty on the outside by ugly on the inside and I met them person. Thank you for advice
@communicativeScarf1641 I’m sorry about this difficult experience, and I hope you’ll continue on your path of healing and growth. Please do your best to manage your past wounds and get to a better place mentally. As for attracting women, good energy is very attractive. When talking to the other person, are you happy, relaxed, and being yourself? If you’re having a good time, the other person is also likely to have a good time, and it could lead to something more. I highly recommend learning about and looking at healthy relationships so you can understand, and hopefully eventually experience, what that would look like. Each relationship will be different but there are common factors in good relationships. All the best 💛
@communicativeScarf1641
Hey, I feel you. I did the same question in the past - for the same reasons, I believe.
I would suggest you to do two quwstions to yourself:
1 - why do I really want to atract women?
2 - why women would be atracted to me?
- by the way, rocker women (pink, headbanger, I believe you got the idea) enjoy black t-shirts if that is the case. 😌
@eaterofwords
*Punk, I meant Punk.
