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by tommy
Last post
 May 22nd, 2025
...See more Welcome to the Men's Issues Taglist This thread is an auto-updating list. The list is regularly updated by forum leaders and can be found below. Having issues? Reply to this thread and someone will help you! Why should I join the taglist? ✔ Never miss out on sub-community check-ins, discussions or events ✔ Get tagged and notified by community leaders whenever a new relevant thread has been posted ✔ Become a more active member of the community. What do I need to do? ✅ To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please add me. ❌ To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please remove me. ------------------------- Current taglist
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Personal Growth and Dating
by Alongstory23
Last post
 17 hours ago
...See more I want to start a thread that I hope can accomplish 2 things. 1) Be a bit of a journal for myself to chronicle the work I am doing in my dating and social life in a semi-public space and 2) Be a place where other men can see my process, learn from it, offer counsel or advice and hopefully help them in their own dating lives. Right now I predominately do not use dating apps and intend to keep it that way. I meet people through friends, running (run clubs) and volleyball. I'd like to branch out and meet people in even more activities than these, but its a good start.  In this process I want to become less judgemental, more courageous, and more generous. Let's start with that.
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Porn and Masturbation under High Stress
by optimisticSpruce4150
Last post
 Monday
...See more Hello everyone, I am a 22-year-old unmarried male medical student. I am currently going through an incredibly difficult phase in my life, and I am reaching out to this community for some guidance, support, or insight.For some time now, I have been struggling with a compulsive habit of watching pornography and ***. I have tried numerous strategies and techniques to stop, but I keep hitting a wall. My pattern is highly cyclical: for the first seven days, abstaining feels relatively easy and manageable. However, by the 8th day, the mental pressure becomes overwhelming. It feels as though my brain experiences an intense cognitive overload, and constant, intrusive thoughts inevitably force me to relapse.I have noticed a distinct correlation between my physical energy levels and this compulsion. When my energy is low or depleted due to the rigorous demands of medical school, I do not experience strong cravings. However, the moment my physical energy levels recover and peak, my brain immediately channels that high energy straight into a desire for pornography.This cycle is taking a heavy emotional toll on me. Every relapse leaves me feeling depleted, highly guilty, and anxious. I am also starting to worry about how this hyper-stimulation might negatively impact my perception of real-world intimacy and my capacity to form healthy relationships with women in the future.As a medical student, I understand the physiological basics of dopamine baselines and stress response pathways, but translating that theoretical knowledge into real-world behavior modification has proven incredibly difficult when the physical urges peak. If anyone has experienced this specific 7-to-8-day surge pattern, or if anyone has practical, actionable advice on how to build environmental friction, manage high-energy states without resorting to digital escapes, or handle acute urges, I would deeply appreciate your insights.Thank you for your time and help.
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Addiction
by wittyGlobe4133
Last post
 Friday
...See more I have been struggling with a point addiction since I was 11 years old im about to be 22. I have had periods of sobriety but it never seems to last forever and it just kept escalating to the point where I was talking to people online. Im married now and it is still a problem well it was I was sober for months and then out of the blue did it not for pleasure or anything just to do it and it took my marriage from the best point we had been in in a long time to now she won't look at me and I know shes going to leave and I dont blame her. But she said some thing and I feel like I finally woke up through out all me smoking stuff and started researching things and doing things I should've been doing all along and I feel different but my heart hurts so bad because I know I wont ever get to show her and I also know I'll never be with anyone else because I made her a promise to have and to hold as long as I shall live and im totally okay with being alone now all I wanna do is someday be a man she would be proud of again. We also had a kid we lost and im so ashamed and maybe it wasn't meant to be because how could I have been a good dad with these issues so I hope I can make them proud of me too one day. Someone worth being their dad and the man I should've been to my wife.
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Overwhelmed
by blueShip277
Last post
 September 6th
...See more How much can a person take before it’s too much. The last 5 months have been ***. Was used and abused by a narcissist wife who eventually cheated on me and left. I was left with everything to figure out including all of our debts. Now comes the depression and loneliness that I have never experienced like this before. I fear everything. The present and the future. The ONLY good thing she did was leave me with my house. But it is getting harder to afford without her help to pay our debts. I try to stay positive but every single day scares me because I don’t feel in control of my future
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Masturbation Free July Attempt
by Dragon2
Last post
 September 6th
...See more 6 months ago I attempted and completed successfully a "No Nut November" type of thing in January I am really aiming to get to end of this July month and succeed again without doing any masturbation 🙏
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What’s one thing men don’t talk about enough?
by Bhrigs
Last post
 August 31st
...See more Not necessarily the biggest issue, just something you’ve noticed gets brushed aside or laughed off when it probably shouldn’t.
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Penis size
by indigoPeach4440
Last post
 August 28th
...See more I have severe anxiety and PTSD related to my *** size and I dont know what to do.
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Questions
by joshuamwoodard
Last post
 August 18th
...See more Question for all of us in here. I’m black and 31 years old. My fiance is saying our disconnect is that I’m not whimsical and that she feels as though it’s a kid in me wanting to be free and be my self. Being whimsical is weird to me in my opinion and there are things that make me feel young again like video games, anime, the aquarium and the zoo, etc. I feel as though I’m masculine but a little toxic because the stuff I’ve been through already with her is making her think like she’s in a marriage with a kid so i have to be fully masculine and not be as soft. 2. Are yall in a marriage where yall have to ask for, idk what words i can use in here, but sexual intercourse or what is men love what women does to us down below? Like i feel as though if my woman loves me, she will just do it and initiate it and i don’t feel loved or wanted because she’s not doing it and she doesn’t really care because she says that the Bible says that the lord gives the woman to us in a way. I might be saying it wrong because idk a lot of Bible like that but i love everything about the Bible but im concerned when it comes to sex and intimacy and the initiation of it. Her being naked isn’t enough. It’s cool but that doesn’t turn me on and she doesn’t like physical touch but i love it. And i pay 99.99% of the bills in the house including hers because she won’t have a job for the next two weeks. I know most women that the men is doing everything except cooking should be on their man sexually 1000%. I want to feel like a king. I’m also coming from prn addiction. I’m 58 days clean and counting 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
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Help! I am struggling with an attraction
by modestZebra9047
Last post
 August 5th
...See more I've been happily married for over 35 years, and from time to time I have become attracted to someone else.  The first time it happened was within the first few years of our marriage.  I confessed this attraction to my wife and she really blew up.  The attraction was self limiting as the young woman moved out of the area and I was able to move past it.  Since then I have become attracted to other woman very infrequently.  I have never done anything inappropriate and have always been able to move past the attractions, and after the first episode early in our marriage have never told my wife about any of the other attraction episodes. But this current one is different, because it is clearly mutual and the signals from this young woman are stronger than from any of the other attractions I've had with the exception of my wife. (When I started really noticing these signs of attraction from this young woman I went on Youtube to see what the various signs are and she checked almost every box.) Like all the other previous episodes, nothing inappropriate has ever happened between us.  But I have found myself constantly thinking about her, looking forward to seeing her, and finding opportunities to be near her more at church, which is where we met. This has affected my sleep, I have become anxious, nervous, and my mind is becoming consumed by this.  Lately I have not been my normal self and my wife has noticed, but I cannot tell her. I think the young woman has also picked up on my struggle (It has become difficult for me to act normal around her) as, for the first time in a very long time,  we did not spend our usual time in social engagement at church. I really just want this to morph back into a good friendship (as it was from the start) as quickly as possible but this one is tough.  Eliminating or minimizing contact with her would be difficult as it would entail either giving up the ministry I am involved with at church, or leaving our church altogether. Any advice, encouragement, and prayer is appreciated. Blessings
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Hi bros
by jasperfrompelepens
Last post
 July 29th
...See more I just found out this group but it is filtered and it is hard to search it again how can I find this group again when I come back?
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Solo quería un lugar en el que escribir (español)
by Daffns
Last post
 July 29th
...See more Tengo 18, hace aproximadamente 6 meses, creo, mi madre se fue de la casa, tenía un amante que es con quién se queda, siempre he sabido que mi madre no es precisamente una buena mujer, se fue sin importarle mis hermanos solo para intentar llevárselos 4 meses después, sabía de sus amoríos hace años, en ese entonces tenía como 13 o 14, tal vez menos. Fue algo difícil, mi vida se fue al caño como hace 6/7 años, mi padre cayó en una enfermedad mental, estuvo encerrado en su habitación, bajo unas sábanas, todo por varios años, apenas comía y bebia, tuve que ver cómo se intentó quitar la vida más de una vez, yo lo intente una vez, fue como hace 1 año, creo que ya va para 2, fue por un motivo algo tonto, no quería ir al colegio, suena estúpido, lo sé, pero era el lugar en el que peor me sentía, era como miedo, ansiedad o algo más, era una presión sofocante que tenía que soportar por 6 horas, el único lugar en que me sentía seguro era mi habitación, creo que fue lo que más me afectó, no salía, apenas comía, baje mucho de peso, pase de ser alguien considerado "gordo" a alguien a quien incluso se le marcaban los huesos del cuerpo, estoy divagando. Mi padre está "mejor" actualmente desempleado, aunque por lo menos come y habla con normalidad, es algo que aprecio, no de su parte, pero es un alivio no tener miedo de regresar a casa y encontrarme a un tipo agresivo o deprimido, esa fue la peor etapa, soportar eso por varios años, también tener que soportar el pensamiento de si al día siguiente habría comida, por suerte casi nunca faltó, gracias abuelos, incluso me salieron unas cuantas canas, creí que eso era un mito. Volviendo al inicio, hay mucho transfondo y no creo poder escribir todo nisiquiera en 1 hora. Mu padre está desempleado, mi madre se fue hace como 6 meses, mi hermana casi es violada por un tío que por desgracia mi abuela defiende, ella algo su fianza, la policía no hizo nada, aunque pronto habrás un juicio, mi hermana, bueno, ella está con mi madre ahora, es pequeña, era algo molesta pero la quiero, es mi hermana, es lo único que se ha mantenido constante en mi vida junto a mi otro hermano. Bueno, estamos en número rojos, el mes que viene haré el examen de ingreso a una universidad, también voy a entrar a un trabajo, por suerte, la cosa es que, como dije, estamos en números rojos, mi padre contribuye poco para la comida del día, mi madre envía 10 dólares por quincena, su amante se molesta si le pido más, incluso le expliqué varias veces que mi padre no aporta mucho, no les importa, no se que hacer, creo que tengo como 2 dólares, "irme" con mi madre no es una opción, nótese las comillas, ella dejó a mi hermana con sus padres, mis abuelos maternos, ellos no son tan buenos como mis abuelos paternos, nos tratan como molestia si estamos más de una semana con ellos, incluso si solo íbamos de visita en el pasado, no creo que les agrade la idea de tener a 2 personas más además de mi hermana, bueno, eso es unas buena parte de lo que quería escribir en alfun lugar, gracias si alguien lee esto, supongo que se va a perder entre todas las publicaciones, igualmente, una palmadita en la espalda de parte de alguien es suficiente.
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Girl problems
by GoodTrouble19
Last post
 July 27th
...See more I’m attracted to my best friend I’m 33