Virgin at 27, feel like a loser

@tallBeechwood9243 

Hey, i totally get how u feel

In my experience it's very difficult to meet people when that's what you set out to do. It seems you usually meet someone when you least expect it.

My advice is join an in person activity that you enjoy. It could be fitness classes, art classes, church group...something that you like to do. When you're there be open to meeting someone special but don't count on it. Worst case you're enjoying an activity you enjoy best case you meet someone who shares one of your interests. 

Indigo’s advice is good join social groups that aren’t all male and do things that will help you feel better good food exercise.

Indigo’s advice is good join social groups that aren’t all male and do things that will help you feel better good food exercise.

I was a virgin until I was 32. so don't worry about that so much. My issue was being closeted for a long time and having bad social anxiety, I also spent my twenties caring for my parents which left me neglecting myself. I finally found my husband when I was thirty and had the mental clarity of working on improving myself. So maybe just focus on yourself more and it makes you feel confident and available to others. 

@tallBeechwood9243

you’re not a loser

@tallBeechwood9243

i know how you feel i am 41 never had a girlfrind  and because of that i might not be able to handle how my frinds and famly will react to it this late in life

@tallBeechwood9243

Sorry you're going through this.  Build your confidence as you are able to do that.  Work out.  Ask any friends you have to introduce you to their groups or other singles.   Meeting people in real life, doing things you like to do.... Start with simple activities so you don't have to worry about "am I good at this activity" in addition to "how do I talk to women".   Many women have their guard up, even in "let's get together" social groups.   Learning how to build trust, then friendships, then something more takes time but is worth it.   Try not to dwell on the "I'm still a Virgin" so much as enjoying the moment, having fun, and see where that leads.  Good luck.

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I am a virgin at 27. My reasons for never having had sex are probably very unique and I won't go into them. I've had to previous relationships. One online, one long distance. We were supposed to meet up this month but we broke up during Christmas. So now I'm just stuck feeling like a loser and wondering if I'll ever meet another person. I'm not terrible at flirting or dating I just don't know how to meet new people. It was pure luck I met my last girlfriend .My situational circumstances just make it incredibly difficult. Idk I crave intimacy so much. I just wanna hug and hold a girl. Kiss her. I've been surviving for so long I cry thinking about it.

I guess my question is can anyone relate to being this late in life? I crave it so much. Idk how to cope with being this lonely. Esp thinking of my ex who's had all those experiences continue to with someone new.