Wants men's pov
I m facing lot of victim blaming i m a victim of domestic abuse and many are saying i deserve it because i m not a House wife and I didn't served my ex husband well it sucks what's your view on it?? I really deserve it? Just because i m a doctor and not housewife ?
@LifeIsPainnnn Nobody ever deserves to be abused. A real man doesn't abuse anyone. I'm glad to read that he's your ex. The people victim blaming you seem to have ideas about gender rolls. A good relationship or marriage is two people working together to build a good life for both of them. Congratulations on being a doctor!
@mytwistedsoul I wished people showed more empathy to victims then abusers it just sucks
@LifeIsPainnnn I wish this too. You're absolutely right, it does suck and it's unfair. Here, I hope you'll find that we don't do that at Cups. At Cups I hope you find compassion and support.
@LifeIsPainnnn
Hello. As far as I can see that, you might have deleted your 7 Cups profile, but I think your question is still worth answering.
As someone said, relationship is something we build together. To not go too deep in the matters of the past, I think that the stereotype of a woman who must stay at home and cook may be as harmful as the belief that every man is a handyman and loves repair works.
If your ex partner expected from you to be someone different than you really are, I think it is a matter of incompatibility between you and him, and no one is to blame. Maybe you were just not meant for each other.
As for domestic violence, it's not incompatibility - it is wrong from both moral and legal point of view. And no one deserves it. It is good you signed out of that and you are safe now.
No you don't deserve that
@LifeIsPainnnn
NO.
You do not deserve such treatment just because you have ambitions for a medical career. This is the 21st century, not the 14th. The old canard about a woman's place being in the home went out with WW2, car fins, bumper bullets & Howdy Doody. Women are members of society no less than men, & should be treated as such. Wife-beaters are worthless except as fertilizer for crops. Go be a doctor & don't let anyone derail you from your goals in life.
