Break-Ups And Moving Forward

Hi there community. I hope everyone is doing as best as you can be right in this momentSo I been really stuck on what does the community need? How can I support them all? So I lurked alot lately and sometimes very quiet. I been hearing alot of people going through break-ups and really having a rough time getting back into step in their daily lives. So I hope this can help some of you out there dealing with a break-up

Breakups can be incredibly painful. Since we are wired to form connections with others, it makes sense that the end of a relationship can trigger intense emotions. Whether you decided to call it quits or were blindsided with rejection, it can be challenging to figure out how to cope in a healthy way.You might be tempted to numb your feelings with a carton of Ben & Jerrys or an alcohol binge, but these coping strategies only provide temporary relief and often make you feel worse in the long-term.

For whatever reasons you had expereinced a break-up you may still be raw. Or dealing with anger, greif, some neglect or abuse. It still is painful and the days feel painful without that love one by your side. What do you do now? Where does all those painful feelings and memories go?

Here are some suggestions that might help you to begin to find yourself and heal:

Take time to heal- It can be difficult to come to terms with whats happened. Dont expect to bounce back to your old self immediately. Accept that youll have good days and bad. Try and sit with that uncomfortable feeling or memory of your loved one. It will pass.

Let Yourself Feel-Its tempting to numb painful emotions either through binge-eating, not eating, drinking alcohol, having rebound relationships, or becoming a workaholic. But these strategies are ineffective in actually allowing yourself to grieve and heal. They might make you feel better temporarily, but will often cause you to feel even worse in the long run.

Express yourself- Its normal to feel lonely after a break-up, and it can help to express this in a way that feels comfortable to you. That may be by writing a journal entry, listening to your favourite tunes, taking some time out, or talking to a friend or family member. By coming to terms with whats happened, you can heal and move on.

Add a dose of mindfulness to your day- Integrating mindfulness practices into your daily routine can be helpful, especially when you are coping with a breakup. Sitting mindfully with intense emotions may seem like the last thing you want to do, but it is a critical step in the healing process. Not all relationships are meant to last forever. However, through each relationship, we can learn and grow as individuals. You can heal and even emerge a stronger person following a breakup. You might not see it now, but this ending may have ultimately been a gift. And the future is full of new and exciting possibilities.

Discussion

1. How are you feeling/thinking after reading this? What is your body feeling?

2. In your own words, what does a break-up do to you? What changes do you go through daily?

3. Now that you read this, do you feel mindfulness can help you in healing and coping with a break-up? If so how?

4. Is there anything you like to share with someone who is going through a break up that could help them today?

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