Buddy Team 4- @Essdee AND @RumpleSteeleSkin
@RumpleSteeleSkin Hey buddy! 😊
@essdee
Hiya Ess how are you doing
How has your week been going?
@RumpleSteeleSkin It was a long week, but I made it! I hope you are doing well.
@essdee
Yay for making it through another week. But......here comes another one
So what kind of mindfulness keeps you focused through the week? For me I lately been doing the stop and breathe. Cause of certain situations I feel people need the truth. But really is that up to me? I still have to be kind and parient
@RumpleSteeleSkin All I know is, you can only control what you do, not what others do. Practicing patience is always a good idea. For me, it can be pretty challenging LOL. I think I'm ready for a new week haha. When I start feeling overwhelmed, I do the stop and breathe, in fact, I am a big fan of it. The first time I tried it, I realized I underestimated just how beneficial it is. Now it is my go-to coping tool. Other than that, I mediate once in a while. Also, I spend time with myself because I am around people all day long and it becomes pretty exhausting. I really enjoy the mindfulness forum and the discussions in chat, they have helped me so much. I have never even heard of mindfulness until I came to 7cups, it's one of the best tools in my opinion.
@essdee
Yes I agree with we can only control our own behaviors and thinking. Well I do hope that this week is a good one for you
@RumpleSteeleSkin Thank you and I hope the same for you. 😊
@RumpleSteeleSkin BTW I am loving the image you posted. I love coffee AND tea!
@essdee
oh yeah then we are cool buddies. Coffee is my life lol
@RumpleSteeleSkin Thank goodness! I was worried! LOL jk 😁
@essdee
aaww no worries okI'm very lazy around here lol but very friendly and silly. Love getting to know folks and also being supportive. Oh did I say silly
@RumpleSteeleSkin 
@essdee
@RumpleSteeleSkin That is the truth! ☕☕☕
@essdee
Hey there Essdee how was your Monday going? I hope it was good. Mine was busy and demanding- not only that but my boss went back on her words on my hours for a client. I will admin I did not reach out for mindfulness Still right now later in the day I am still a bit irritated by this.
But....mindfulness also teaches us to empower ourselves in certain situations where we do have some control over. So I sent my boss a text on wanting to talk with her when she is not distracted. So now I am working on my tone of words as I don't want to sound with an attitude. I want to be focused on this and also be open to what she has to share.
this is what I'll be doing soon
Hello @RumpleSteeleSkin 😊 My Monday was busy and demanding as well...and long! I'm very mentally exhausted. I'm sorry about what your boss did. I don't blame you for being irritated. But you handled it extremely well! I agree with you about mindfulness empowering us when things do not go as planned. I work with a lot of ppl who do not realize that and tend to get overwhelmed and crabby. But I'm trying to share what I know. They can listen or not. I hope your day goes better tomorrow! Have a good night! 😀
@essdee
aawww Ess, yes the only thing you can do is share and it's up to them to take it in. I actually think many people take in stuff, they just don't mention itI teach and show my clients mindfulness alot. AND it's amazing how many really like it. Well ....the crabby ones don't lol I am glad that I know mindfulness as my reaction to my boss was great, and she was not mad when I called her after hours either
@RumpleSteeleSkin That is really great to hear! I'm glad practicing mindfulness worked well and in your favor. Today has been a good day for me as I have the day off! YAY! lol I slept in for the first time in I don't know how long, and just getting some things done around the house that I usually don't have time for during the week. I hope you are having a wonderful day today!
@RumpleSteeleSkin
Hey Essdee how are you doing? It's been a minute since I been here for you
But.....your my buddy and I am here now
Since Thursday my days become bussier and I get very tired caring for my daughter. But I am able to do some mindfulness grounding BOTH morning and right before I lose it cause I can't get to sleep-lol. So I am very thankful that mostly my brain kicks in. I also am stubborn some lol
How are things with you and your week? Anything cool in the mindfulness area?
@RumpleSteeleSkin I'm sorry! I didn't get a notification of your post 😟 I know we all get busy so if you don't hear from me right away or vice versa, I completely understand. How old is your daughter? I know that kids can test us sometimes. Stubbornness can be useful at times! It sounds like you are using it in a healthy way. I hear you on not being able to sleep! Once my head hurts that pillow...in come the unwanted thoughts. My week was okay, just extremely busy with work and family. I also joined a gym bc physical health is just as important as mental health. I went once so far lol. I enjoyed it though. Aside from breathing exercises, I take more time to enjoy things, like food. I have been eating healthier lately. It's an adjustment but I want things to change. Okay I'll wrap up this novel so you can get in with your life lol. How was your week? Do you get a three day weekend this weekend?
@essdee
HI Ess good to see youYes at times we all get very busy, and well things on here just wait. It's being mindful first of ourselves, then life things then 7cupsMy daughters are 16 and 18. Yes so trying on the good habits and wow that darn stubbornness-lol. Yes that darn sleep habit goes well or doesn't. Wow I was also thinking of joining a gym right down the street form me. Its 10 bucks per person a month. Just the motivation isn't there-blah. I have been shopping more healthier lately for my family. My kids run the risk of being diabetics, so lately their blood work has been coming back better. I was pretty mindful at food shopping. And every time I thought of potato chips or sweets I was thinking of later on illness for my kids.
I do not get a 3 day weekend, but my kids doI have to go into work tomorrow for a bit and then the next day the week starts. But we are going to bbq tomorrow and just enjoy the time we have
@RumpleSteeleSkin Teenage girls, yipes! LOL. Your mindset is pretty inspiring. I need to remember to weigh the cost everything I want something unhealthy for me (not just food). I'm glad you have some time to enjoy with your family this weekend. I just trying to get some things done around the house that I usually don't have time for during the week. Hopefully, I will get to enjoy some leisure time as well. There are a ton of books in my kindle and bookshelves I have been planning to read for a long time...wishful thinking, I guess. As long as I get the chores out the way, I'll feel better though. I hope you have a wonderful weekend and have some time for yourself if that is what you want. :)
@essdee
Ha you are like me some! I have 1 whole shelf on my wall in my room of books I did not read yet- but so want to get lost in. But guess what I do? I read for my phone and play my game or watch netflix and so on. So that too I can be a bit more mindful.
How about both of us this weekend find 1 good book and be mindful of reading a few pages a day?
So far I done these things: 1. Went do hospital for scans on my back n legs, food shopped, medicines picked up, viola in shop to get new pegs, 4 loads of cloths done and 3 more to go, half the plants watered and pruned, kitchen cleaned, hygeine closet organized, computer area done and dusted, 3 cabinets cleaned and gone throught, ferrets cage cleaned out...........
hahahaha and still I have more house cleaning to do, and come up with 2 activities for my forum teams, and do a mindfulness dashboard and and and. So I need to be mindful of also me-wow I think I am hungry now
@RumpleSteeleSkin What a week! I'm sorry I didn't get back to you right away. How are doing? How did the scans go? It's the weekend and the best time to get things done...yet here I sit lol! My shoulder and legs are feeling the pain today. I worked out Thursday night, ran errands, carried heavy things after work. Now I'm paying for it. I need to take a page out of your book and be better with time management. Help! Lol
@essdee
Hey there Essoh man I can just mindfully type away on my long week-and today as well. So I know and fully understand hun. Only time I really feel mindful was on the potty or in bed relaxing at night-lol I'm getting low energy today as I so cleaned up a quarter of my house. The sitting/computer room as well as the shelves, knicker-nackers, plants, walls, base boards and so on. Im half way through the living room now. But it's taking longer due to me being so detailed and organizing things and seeing do we really need it. So now I just got on the computer 6pm.
The scans were great. Nothing wrong with my lower legs or feet-Im so blessed! It could of been due to my back injury and the nerves is all. My back been doing great tho-just a bit achy today due to more physical work. But soon Ill do a patch and heat.
aaww hun I'm sorry that your shoulders and legs are achy-hugsI suggest best thing is HEAT. I use a lavender and rice pouch in the microwave and ooohhh wow its awesome. Be mindful and keep relaxing with some heat on ur sore spots hun. No judging of self ok. I am not always mindful of my time and turn into a monster trying to get things done.
I do hope you can relax and let your body heal some this weekend. Also ice cream helps to
@RumpleSteeleSkin
I'm so glad everything went well with the scans! Some cleaning is better than none. There is nothing wrong with being detailed and organized. As of now, I am mindfully drinking my coffee and trying not to remember my dream that made me anxious (I woke up not long ago). Thank you for suggestions for body aches, I will definitely try it. I hope you have an amazing Sunday! 💙 😊
@essdee
I will run and chase of all those boogie-monsters
@RumpleSteeleSkin That is the best gif I have seen today! Thank you!
@RumpleSteeleSkin Hey buddy! I hope you are doing well and having a great day! I'm taking a sick day. My back hurt so much, it was difficult to get out of bed. But I took something for it and the pain is gone now. So I had a snack and some coffee and I should be ready for next week...not that I am thinking that far ahead, haha. Do you have any weekend plans this weekend? Thanks for being an awesome buddy! :)
@essdee
aawww Ess I'm sorry on your back pain- yes I do feel ya in taking a break from work. I do that once in a bit when my lower back acts up. But my doc order me patches and I put 1 on and wow- it helps. Maybe you can look into this as well or pm me and I can share more on this with you. For my weekend I do not work as its my weekend off-wootwoot. So I am taking my girls out and getting our hair done. Kids want to thrift shop(to get more junk I say lol) and really just enjoy Saturday. Sunday maybe a bit more house work, baking cookies for my client and dinner and relaxing. Yeah Ill be on here catching up on some things, but it will be limited time.
My buddy hope your weekend you can relax ur back and well just relax
@RumpleSteeleSkin It sounds like you had a fun weekend! Thank you for the well wishes. My back felt so much better this morning (YAY!) and I'm ready for the week ahead. I hope you have an amazing week! Talk to you soon! :)
@essdee
Wiggle wiggle with an extra strong cup of coffee and my favorite mindfulness exercise
Yes busy weekend but I did manage some me time. Also I'm being more mindful of my health as I'm an old buzz of an elephant. 🐘
I believe all these years my doctor misdiagnosed my pain in hands to rhumidoid arthritis. I believe it's gout. I started drinking lots more water for about a week now, omg no inflammation really in my fingers and my pain is gone
But I feel I'm love with diet mountain dew.....
So I am being mindful of my pop intake to 1 a day and no more. Water water water!
Yay buddy! So glad your back pain is better and your ready for the week. Just the other day ASilentObserver done a check in on pain and mindfulness. It is a good read.
Well buddy my busy work week will start in 1 hour😔
My weekend to work so I work every day but nothing to busy tho. Alright hun I gotta get ready now. Thanks for being mindful and listening to me. Hugs💜💜💜💜💜💜
@RumpleSteeleSkin No pain is always good! 😊 My mind is mush so this will be short lol. I'm glad you could fit in some me time. Its important to get a quiet moment for yourself to regroup. Now my brain quit working and is telling me to shut down for the night. I will give you a more detailed message tomorrow! 💙 Sleep well!
@essdee
Hey ya EssssssssssssssssssI'm so so sorry this been awhile in me responding. Now I'm not gonna lie and say I was ill or very busy. I did forget about this areaI'm sorry.
So today I went to an out of town Festival with many of many folks. Kind ones. Silly ones. Rude ones. Also smelly ones. I was having some trouble connecting on any form of mindfulness skills. Yes true I just couldn't due to all the stimulation around me, the loud noises, people bumping into me and so on. I was almost going to leave-but I didn't wanna get my kids mad.
So observing I done. I observed the person who bumped me do it to 4 more folks, I observed the one who smelled pass people and they were very rude talking on that guy, I observed someone being very loud as he past a lady with a new born baby and made it cry. I didn't even judge, just observed.
I was so proud of myself I got my some Philly Cheese Fries-hahahah
So what are your plans for halloween? Any traditions or things you like to do with yourself or others?
Miss ya
@RumpleSteeleSkin You got philly cheese fries and didn't share??? lol It's okay you forgot, so did I. Life has been crazy busy with each and every day. Just so you know, I enjoy your check-ins and you are an awesome buddy! Sorry to hear you had to be around rude and smelly people. I have just been working (and playing a little), but mostly working. I have been leaving work at later times and trying to save a little time for myself (not easy to do). Everyone needs something. I haven't been practicing much mindfulness and ashamed to say and I have lost my cool a few times. I found out some dishearting things and I had trouble processing. On another note, I got a few misunderstandings cleared up so I'm feeling better about it. I still have my coffee and chocolate so I think I'm going to be okay haha. I hope you have a wonderful weekend and that life is treating you well! Take care! <3
@essdee
Hey there buddy-good to see youaww I'm smiling to hear you enjoy the check-ins! I do hear you on the working alot and then trying to save some time or energy for you. uuggg is all I gotta say to that. I been just a bit bussier and still struggling for "me" times. I do however get more of that on weekends, well every other weekend sometimes. But I do try and make the best of the time I have and try not to give it to the house or cleaning or-orI'm sorry you have to deal with some hard things now. I do hope that you can adjust to this as best you can-hugs. Mindfulness comes and goes and tbh I don't make such a big deal to be mindful every day or all the time. I just can't. I do know my body goes right into it most of the time and I don't realise this. So, do you think you could of been mindful and not noticed?
Well it was wonderful checking in with you. I hope you can enjoy Sunday and well then comes Monday.....
@RumpleSteeleSkin I did nothing this weekend and I'm happy about it lol. I will message again later tonight when I have more time. I just wanted to touch base with you! Hope your weekend was fantastic!
@essdee
Ess it's all goodI did mindfulness in the store today. I had to do huge food shopping for my client and well Sundays are always busy at the stores. So I did the "Observe" only skill. I did great actually see....
1. I observed a lady's shirt was inside out
2. I observed a teen really needed a shower
3. I observe this little lady must have arthitus as she was rubbing her hands alot
4. I observed one mom about ready to lose her brains due to her toddler screaming
So my shopping was good and I got giggles and smiles
@RumpleSteeleSkin that is a good example of needing to practice mindfulness! Good job! I went grocery shopping too and saw a fussy toddler. I wasn't feeling the loud noises though so I walked away lol. I watched Netflix most of the day and enjoyed it. I also spent some time preparing for this upcoming week...give me strength!
@essdee
WOW-Ess I'm so proud of you!!! Look at us we both did food shopping and mindfulness was there. Yeah I can't handle the babies/toddlers screaming and such in the stores. And the parents do nothing is really what gets meBut again I have tried over and over to find ways to tolerate that noise. I move to the other side of store, the baby still manages to come closer-lol
Yes doesn't it seem like the weekend went fast? I did not really prepare myself but more so all the preperations I done in advance to domajor cooking for my client. So now home, catching up on a few things here and I believe a nap I earned
hugs to you my buddy!
i just want to thank the both of you for putting this Buddy Post in public... it was good to read how you support each other, and take time off without rancor. i hope to have a 'buddy' sometime myself, but i'm not sure i would like it to be public~ 
@RumpleSteeleSkin & @essdee
still climbing that steep learning curve to corrections 
@GustyOne4U
HI Gusty thanks for sharing. A buddy is a good think especially for mindfulness as for many it is something very hard to understand yet get going and doing. So that is why I made these areas. Also this are is EssDee and mine only-but it's ok you stopped in If you like I can get you on the list for a buddy, and there both of you can try it. Talk on anything really, but also try and encourage or ask your buddy on mindfulness skills or things you can try. Please pm me if you like one
@GustyOne4U Hi there! 💙 thanks for stopping by!
@RumpleSteeleSkin hiiiii! I hope you had a nice Thanksgiving :) I had two of them lol. Other than that, just busy with work and drama. The drama llama has paid me a visit once again, but I am handling it. Anyway, I just wanted to check in and see how you are!
@essdee
OMG ESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSI missed ya some there. Yes I had a great Thanksgiving and also I had 2 but I guess 3 if you count the meal with my client. We just didn't eat turkey. To much turkey is blah you know.
Well I been sorta busy with work, but noooo on the drama. Almost tho, but well I maybe need to step back from thinking it's ok to share things with friends you care about or just looking out for them. Guess they will learn on their own right.
Was there any mindfulness done around thanksgiving for you?
@Essdee
Hey hunYes these times are busy for us both. Do not forget to be mindful and also stay connected to those who support you and make you feel like you
@RumpleSteeleSkin Hiiiii! Yes these are busy times indeed! I hope you are doing well and I will try to keep in touch more often before the year is up. :) I am practicing those breathing exercises!
@essdee
@RumpleSteeleSkin I miss you too! Things have been hectic lately. How are you?
@essdee hey things here busy here as well. Since my rib healed I beed disecting my whole house. Corner to corner no spider is safe in my homeAlso working full time. So I understand you hun. Just don't be a stranger out there. How has your mindfulnes skills been coming? Any good self care?
@RumpleSteeleSkin I'm glad your rib healed. I got a cold but I'm better now. I rearranged my room and started organizing things (who knows when I'll finish, lol). I got a TV and that's how I have been unwinding at night and weekends. Don't let those spiders take over!
@essdee
@essdee
HIya buddy have not heard from you in a bit-how are you doing? Yes busy right? My days of work had gotten longer, so sometimes me doing mindfulness is NO! Hahaha I do hope you are doing well
@RumpleSteeleSkin HI buddy! I'm very sorry I have been silent. Things have been stressful lately and I have been forgetting a lot of things (including practicing mindfulness). I hope you're doing very well.
@essdee
aawww hun it is ok. I am glad to see you today hereYou know how to get a hold of me if you ever like to chat
