Rejection And Feelings

Rejection And Mindfulness

Live your life for you not for anyone else. Dont let the fear of being judged, rejected or disliked stop you from being yourself. ~Sonya Parker

"What did I do wrong?" or "Why don't they want to talk to me no more?" or "I'm just not worth it to anyone" I bet hearing these words make you feel you not someone good enough-right? As unpleasant as "rejection" is IT'S PART OF LIFE, and even me and mine is not exception. As time went by and I had kids and allowed myself to engage in the worls, I invited rejection into my life. A crush I had only wanted to be friends. Something I ran for in school I wasn't elected. I didn't get that promotion. Wow rejection friggin hurts!!!

Here are some ways we can be MINDFUL of rejection:

1. Build Mindfulness- Mindfulness meditation is a practice used to help control anxiety, self-awareness. The act of mindful meditation is a simple one requiring you to simply sit, disconnect yourself from whats happening, and take in the world around you. It helps to not only center you but also builds empathy for others which is key in both understanding rejection and also guiding you when its necessary for you to reject others.

2. Build Grit- Another form of mindfulness is building mental power through grit. the mentally strong work on seven points: 1. They acknowledge their discomfort 2. They give themselves a reality check 3. They celebrate their courage 4. They refuse to allow failure to define them 5. They practice self-compassion 6. They learn from rejection 7. They move forward with confidence

3.See Social Media for What It Is- Social media is the fuel for which our society burns for energy. What was once a fun distraction has become a staple in almost everyones lives. From Facebook to Pinterest and Twitter and half a dozen others, social media keeps us connected. The other side of that same coin is social media use can lead to depression, anxiety, and reduced self-esteem. This comes from everyone sharing only the best of their lives, using social media as a way of showing off to garner validation and approval from peers. What this does is only show the bright side of their lives; and when the bright side is all we see and we compare our lives to others, were comparing the good and bad of our lives with only the good of others. This creates a skewed perception and we become over-analytical of our own lives, feeling that were failing somehow because why arent I as happy as them?

4. Be Mindful in Our Romantic Interactions- One of the areas in which we deal with rejection both being rejected and rejecting others is in dating. Being mindful without judgement can be difficult for anyone, but by keeping in mind not only what we want but to appreciate what we have, it makes interacting with those were with easier and more meaningful.

Discussion:

1. What does rejection look like to you? How do you feel?

2. Now that you shared on how this feels, how do you think mindfulness skills can help refocus you and give you some grounding?

3. Can you share on some skills that help you desculate the negative feelings/thoughts when you are dealing with rejection?

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