Food for thought about automatic thoughts and self-perceptions
Hi everyone !
I feel like I should share this story to day because it gave me food for thought so maybe someone else can relate to what I experienced in some way, who knows. Maybe some of you may have similar stories to share too.
Basically, anxiety kind of popped up out of the blue today. I'm not sure why, maybe I was too tired or just emotionally tired. I began feeling anxious about not getting any message from my ex after sending some thing I knew they'd like. But no answer. Nothing.
Just like usual, I began contacting them again and say "Are you sure you want to stay in touch, I feel like we're not getting along as much" feeling depressed. We end up chatting a bit after that I log in 7cups and unluckily end up with a listener who advise me to move on rather than listening to me (good thing, I've progressed enough on some things to know it wasn't active listening, the person was projecting). So I end up turning my sadness into anger and thus sending my ex-partner said text.
We chat a bit and I discover they had answered me but I've been having trouble with receiving RCS (Rich Communication Services) which is a substitute for SMS. So as a result I ended up mimicking their lack of answers (or should I say perceived lack of answers) as it's something I sometimes do when tired.
But once again, we end up calling and chatting a little of a lot of different things and I suddenly relax.
Moral of the story, sometimes this awkward mimicking just serves no purpose and might even cause you problems.
It also made me realize that there's still self-perceptions I need to work on when I'm feeling really sad as they make me bitter and inactive.
I think these kind of thoughts are the most automatic nd thus hard-wired reactions and thoughts we have but I take as a lesson the fact that I was able to catch myself doing this, red handed today. Not my proudest moment but I found contentment in acknowledging what just happened.
Has there ever been situations in which you also ended up in a silly and embarrassing situations because of these automatic thoughts too ?
@navyMelon5225
I think communication is always key .
The honest, hard conversations.
Even though we don't like to have them.
Because alot of the times we get the wrong end of the stick.
We misread.
We misjudge.
We jump to conclusions.
Or we over react.
And sometimes we ruin things that could have been easily sorted with a chat 🥰