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How to make friends in 30s?

User Profile: JohnFletcher
JohnFletcher November 18th, 2023

How to make friends in 30s?

How to find an accountability partner?

How to begin living again?


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User Profile: glisteningLight2506
glisteningLight2506 November 23rd, 2023

@JohnFletcher Making friends in your 30s, finding an accountability partner, and beginning to live again can be challenging but absolutely achievable. Here are some tips for each:


### Making Friends in Your 30s:
1. **Join Social Groups:**
   Attend events or join clubs related to your interests. Meetup.com and local community centers often offer a variety of groups.

2. **Workplace Connections:**
   Connect with colleagues outside of work. Organize casual get-togethers or attend work-related events.

3. **Take Classes:**
   Enroll in classes or workshops. Whether it's a fitness class, language course, or art workshop, it's a great way to meet like-minded people.

4. **Volunteer:**
   Volunteer for causes you care about. It not only allows you to give back but also introduces you to people with similar values.

5. **Online Platforms:**
   Use online platforms specifically designed for making friends, like Bumble BFF or local *** groups.

### Finding an Accountability Partner:
1. **Clarify Goals:**
   Clearly define your goals and what you need help being accountable for. This will guide you in finding the right partner.

2. **Communicate Expectations:**
   Be open and honest about your expectations and what kind of support you're looking for. Establish clear communication channels.

3. **Shared Interests:**
   Look for someone with shared interests or goals. Having common ground makes the partnership more enjoyable.

4. **Regular Check-Ins:**
   Set a schedule for regular check-ins. Whether it's weekly or monthly, consistent communication is key.

5. **Celebrate Successes:**
   Celebrate each other's successes, no matter how small. Positive reinforcement enhances motivation.

### Beginning to Live Again:
1. **Reflect on Values:**
   Take time to reflect on your values and what truly matters to you. Use this as a guide for making choices.

2. **Set Small Goals:**
   Start with small, achievable goals. Gradual progress builds confidence and momentum.

3. **Try New Things:**
   Step out of your comfort zone. Trying new activities or experiences can bring a sense of novelty and excitement.

4. **Build a Support System:**
   Surround yourself with supportive and positive individuals. Share your journey with friends or a therapist.

5. **Practice Self-Compassion:**
   Be kind to yourself. Understand that it's okay to make mistakes or face setbacks. Learn and grow from each experience.

Remember, building friendships, finding an accountability partner, and starting anew are ongoing processes. Be patient with yourself and embrace the journey of personal growth.
User Profile: WayJay
WayJay November 24th, 2023

@JohnFletcher

it sounds like you lived once before in the past. A useful exercise may be to reflect on what you considered “living” before, and how you can incorporate some of that into your life now. 

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User Profile: WayJay
WayJay November 24th, 2023

@WayJay

remember, the answers we are looking for are in the questions we ask ourselves. Think about the number of times you say “I can’t (do this)” to yourself. If you were to change that internal dialogue to “how can I (do this)?” how much do you think would change? 

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User Profile: dieReisende
dieReisende November 27th, 2023

@JohnFletcher

All the accountability partners who I have ever had I have found online. The best ones I have usually found through joining a group that was occupied with the area that I was looking for accountability for as well.

Making friends in your 30s is less easy but absolutely possible. I have moved to a different part of the country at 32. I knew nobody here. Basicly I started to get involved in activities where I met other people with similar interests. Most of my life I have been volunteering in one way or another. So I took up volunteering again. It took a while. But I did end up with friends.

How to begin living again. That very much depends what you mean by that. I think 7 cups might be a good start for that. Your first two questions sound like you are isolated and on your own. Finding yourself someone to talk to regularly might be a good start. So a path might be to reach out to listeners on here.

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