@CoffeeCups99 retagging her @jesusredeemedme2425
Thanks yeah i forgot to put the @
Hi! Thank you Sun <3
Anyway, Hi once again. So what do you want to know? Because idk where to start 😂
Well, since I have the memory of a squirrel lol…
Let’s start with the basics? :)
First, what name should I call you? :)
What are your hobbies and interests? Any pets? Do you like sushi???
First off, you can call me by my username: CoffeeCups99 or just Coffee i guess
As for hobbies: Gaming, watching TV shows/anime and various YouTube content.
As for pets: I got two kitties at home that I love so much (i am a huge cat person)
Lastly, its an odd question, but I do in fact like sushi lmao ð¤£
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Coffee would be easier hehe
What kind of games and TV shows? <3 I like the old 90s/00s games :) I’m watching lots of kids movies and shows lately, so right now I’m watching Redwall :)
Awww kitties! <3 I’m more of an exotic pet person, so I’ve had snakes, a rat, an iguana, etc.
Lol I just came up with a random question XD I’m not a huge fan of sushi, I prefer Chinese food <3
Multiplayer games, well mainly only 2 multiplayer games nowadays. I don’t do single player games anymore. As for TV shows, honestly haven’t seen many but Breaking Bad and Peaky Blinders are my top favourites. For movies, i primarily watch horror movies, sometimes action movies. And of course anime, although i watch that less often nowadays. I can give you anime recommendations if you are interested.
Ah cool, exotic stuff is not really my thing but fair enough.
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Thank you for listening…
Which multiplayer games?
I just started rewatching “Anne With an E” again :)
I’ve been trying to get into anime, but it’s been a slow process. I like Cells at Work and A Whisker Away (that lifelike animation tho!) <3
Sure! Got any gentle, lowkey anime recs? <3 Thanks! :)
I only got into them because I was allergic to pet dander lol
World of Tanks mainly and League of Legends (used to be my main game, but i don’t really play it as much). As for anime recommendations, I am really not sure what I could recommend you that is “gentle”. Can you maybe elaborate on that?
Like, nothing super hardcore, like violence or inappropriate or anything. Just like kid-friendly I guess lol
Tbh idk if I have anything to recommend in that case lmao. I guess the only recommendation I could give you is Komi can’t communicate (it’s a coming-of-age romcoms anime) xD. Anyway, If you got anything else you wanna chat about just ask away i guess.
I actually started that one, and loved it! Then it got weird and s*****l a few episodes in. It was very unexpected and uncomfortable, so I stopped watching it. It’s a pity, because it was soooo good!
What are your fave kids’ books and YA books? Do you have any unusual interests? What kind of wild animal would you want as a pet? What brought you to 7Cups? <3
When it comes to books, I used to read a lot in my childhood but now as a young adult, no. And the ones I did read i can’t really remember anymore.
I do have a few unusual interests, which from where I am from is very rare/niche, however I cannot share them with you unfortunately. When it comes to what wild animal would I want as a pet, probably a large cat (since I said I am a cat person) but not too large. I recently watched a few really cute YT shorts of a Russian couple featuring their pets-a Black leopard (you could say “black panther”) and a Rottweiler playing/hanging out together. So I would say something along the lines of that (maybe like a Lynx for example).
To be honest, severe depression. I am someone who doesn’t have many friends in general and the closest ones to me I met online and I do not see them IRL. And the ones I do have IRL I am not that close with (they are more good acquaintances than friends). And currently noone is available to chat with me so…yeah you could say it gets pretty lonely like that. But its not like I came here looking for help or anything or to make friends (because thats just not gonna work here). I am simply here to try coping.
Why don’t you read much anymore?
It’s all good, I understand not being able to share :)
Awww, that sounds cute :)
I have severe depression too. It’s really hard, especially because I have other coexisting issues too.
Why don’t you have that many friends?
Where did you meet the online friends?
I’m here for you <3 I’ll chat with you whenever you’d like, about whatever you’d like <3
Actually, you’d be surprised. I made my best friend here, and one of the girls is basically my sister <3 You get really attached to those guys after awhile <3 Keep trying. Keep talking. Friendships will start, and you’ll come to love so many of these guys <3
Well idk I just stopped reading like books in general just became boring to me for some reason (the ones I read at the time).
Severe childhood trauma. I was heavily neglected, isolated and bullied throughout my childhood and teenage years while also being constantly abused by my father while at home. You could say I developed a massive abandonment trauma because of it.
I met my online friends through gaming of course. Some from League of Legends some from Overwatch that I used to play back in the day, Call of Duty and World of Tanks. They sorta became the only closest friends that I still have today (don’t have anyone IRL this close).
Thank you I appreciate it. But it’s ok, you don’t have to reach out always. I don’t expect people to give me attention 24/7, I am well aware people are busy with their problems.
To be honest I wasn’t surprised in the first place. As someone who built his only closest friendships online, I know it’s possible. It’s a lot harder and less reliable than IRL but it works if you are lucky enough. Unfortunately, since times have changed and the people I used to chat regularly are now too busy with life to give me any kind of attention + my growing depression, my wish to seek friends pretty much died and I am dealing with it all on my own. And to be honest, I think it’s for the best.
So in a sense, no, I don’t believe your statement that “friendships will start”. That ship has sailed long time ago for me.
I stopped reading as much when I got a smartphone… Everything was downhill from there lol
I’m so sorry… I totally understand because I was there too. My stepdad neglected and ignored me, and pretended I wasn’t in the room. My dad wouldn’t spend time with me. (They’ve both recently passed.) I started getting depressed when I was in my late teens, and was mostly isolated. I was bullied my whole life (I’m still being bullied). My dad and stepdad were abusive in a lot of ways.
I’m scared of being abandoned and forgotten because a friend forgot me one time. Like when she was supposed to take me somewhere I think. I don’t remember the details, just that Sh caused it.
I met a few friends via a local Dis Cord (sorry, if I don’t write it that way, it will get censored lol).
I love loving people, and I care about you <3 I’m here to listen and be there for you <3
Online friendships can be easier. Less pressure.
I get that. Sometimes you harden and adapt and retreat because of depression and circumstances. I do that myself.
Can I be your friend at least? :)
As someone who watches a lot of Youtube content about various things, I can relate as well lmao.
I am really sorry, that sounds really rough. I guess I am a little more fortunate because despite getting abused (which to be honest, my father is abusive with the whole family not just me), he provides for the family really well since he is the only one that works (so we are financially dependent on him).
Yeah…I can definitely relate to being afraid of abandonment.
I have a dis cord as well. If you’re ok/comfortable, we can chat there. I am way more active there and we small talk better there. If not, thats ok, we can stay here.
Don’t take this the wrong way, but nowadays I have a really hard time believing statements like that. You could say I developed trust issues along as well.
Not really true. Yes they are less pressure because your not seeing what the person is really like but its even hard to connect deeply with people online compared to IRL unless you get extremely lucky and you meet someone that is actually willing to establish that deeper connection.
Tbh, due to being bullied, its hard for me to understand the true meaning of having a real friend (i still do not understand till this day)
Yeah sure I guess…
What kinda videos do you watch?
Yeah, it was like that with my stepdad. Abuse, but he took care of us financially, so we were kinda stuck.
Why are you afraid of abandonment?
That’s offsite contact and it’s not allowed… We’ll get banned for that. Let’s stay here :)
Where did the trust issues come from?
True. You have a good point.
How were you bullied? Was it by people who claimed to be your friend?
I’ll be here for you :)
I watch variety content on YT, ranging from gaming, random educational content but my main focus is tied to one of my unusual interests which I said I cannot discuss.
I see. So It is a similar situation as with my family, although my mother never divorced my father.
Well…due to being neglected and isolated during childhood so much, I just think that people don’t want to spend time with me or give me any attention. None of my friends ever reach out and it’s always me that looks for them. I do understand that people nowadays are busy with their own lives (I don’t expect people to give me attention 24/7) but it would be nice if they would check up on me every once in a while, so I won’t feel abandoned. But at the same time I have gotten used to it (people not reaching out) as I feel like I am not that interesting of a person or someone worth remembering, so I can’t really blame them.
Fair enough I guess. Although I will say I already contacted someone off 7Cups offsite and I am not banned. I never shared any personal info with them or showed my face and It all went well. But I do get the concern why it is not allowed. But…again fair enough if you want to stay here.
I meant it in a way that I don’t trust statements like “friendships will come”, “you matter”, “you are important”. Ya know stuff like that. I just think it’s all BS but you could say that is due to my abandonment trauma (which ends up being right every time).
Mainly verbally. To be honest no, noone ever claimed to be my friend, it was very clear that they had bad intentions from the beginning, except for one guy in elementary school. This guy would pretty much be a “friend to me” half the time and the other half he would bully me relentlessly. It was sorta manipulative in a way. The worst bullying was during sports. Anyway I really don’t like talking about it much into detail and I really hate people through their actions reminding me of my bullying (like if someone does something bad to me that resembles what I experienced in elementary school even a little bit, I develop life-long grudges from it).
Sure I guess…
Remind me to respond to this tomorrow <3
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I might be quite awhile responding… Typing too much is painful. I’m just responding a little bit on a few posts for the time being :) I’ll respond after I tae my partial break <3
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Fair enough. I guess I’ll see you till then 😊
@CoffeeCups99 also the “r” that’s okay!
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Um….
Sorry, please be patient with my responses! I don’t have a lot of bandwidth lately, so sometimes I take days to respond. If I take awhile, I didn’t forget you, don’t worry! <3 I’ll be back eventually :)
Fair enough
I did NOT see your other post, sorry! Lol
Its ok…
I just subscribed to the thread. Maybe now I’ll get notifications lol
I just wanted to give you a heads up (I’m sending this to all my active penpal chats):
I’ve been on 7Cups a lot lately and typing is bothering my carpal tunnel. I’ve also been reaching burnout, and haven’t been accomplishing things I want to do lol!
So I may be slow in responding, while giving my hand and my mind a bit of a rest. Please be patient with my slower responses! <3
ALSO… If I ever take longer than maybe 5 days to respond, the notification may have disappeared. Just send me a reminder post to send me a new notification, to remind me to respond :)
Thanks for understanding! <3
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Ok I gotcha
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Hey 👋😊
Hey :)
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You told me to remind you to respond to a message I wrote couple of days ago 😅
Tonight’s challenge: Knock out at least one “Needs Reply” post <3
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The posts that haven’t been replied to yet.
Hey :)
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Hi…
Whats up?
I’ve been stressy lol
You? <3
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Was ok…until today when I had an another depressive episode. It’s so lovely when it happens. Its not that important anyway and its already over and I am back to normal
Right??? I’m going through one now myself. Hence all my emo sad confused yucky posts…
What caused it? Or was it just in general, for no reason?
hugs <3
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Yeah when those moments come they hit hard. Life just feels empty and meaningless 😊
To be honest I don’t know what caused it. These kind of depressive episodes come periodically for me. And its not like it matters anyway, noone cares anyway 😊 (but its ok, part of the depression journey is to get used to it)
I care. <3
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Thanks, I guess
How have you been?
Tired lol
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Hey…just checking in…how are you doing 😊
I’m alive lol! I can’t wait to go get more free books hehe
You??
Pretty horrible 😔 as I am trying to finish an overdue report from my lab uni course although my supervisor never really gave me a strict deadline. I am just kinda stuck on the last part of my report and have been for the past two weeks and i just feel like a bit of a failure. But I think I have figured out how to solve it and wrap up the report. I just hope she is not too mad that i was taking so long.
Do you get in trouble if you take too long?
That is the thing…I don’t know because like I said, she never gave me a strict deadline for submission. Hence why I am very worried.
Oops
I got a response from her and she was very chill and understandable but she wont be able to give me feedback on the report until the 15th August, which is just lovely.
Hey :)
Hey…whats up?
Not much. I suck at responding apparently tho XD
Its ok…I was busy anyway and ngl, im kinda in a lot of pain…but im getting by
I’m sorry :( How come??
Go check out my cultural food posts <3
Its probably better if I don’t talk about it…it might be too much. But its ok…I am managing it decently well still.
I hope you’re ok <3
