Private and Confidential (b9)
This is a Safe Private and Confidential space for myself and one other. Please respect that in every way, so No reading or responding by others.
Hello @berrycheesecake90 This is your space so your pace, and of course please say if anything is triggering, too upsetting, you are not ready etc
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Hello @berrycheesecake90 hopefully this is now set up for us and it notified you. I can be around for a while, but I think because of time zones, you should be sleeping now, and please do. So just reply when and if you are ready...
Oops 🤭 forgot to mention, the (b9) I hope you realise refers to you.
Ehh, im fine with just Berry, also what do u mean by the ‘🤭’emoji? As in context?
Hello Berry, and I'm fine with Tabby... The b9 was just a quick reference and search for us both, without drawing attention to you specifically... And the emoji was my reaction to my embarrassment for forgetting...
Did you feel comfortable to talk more about your triggers? (Just replied to you at Somatics, for me or even both of us to understand better.) Believe it or not, the meditation really helps with triggers... My childhood trauma was from years of trapped bullying at school.
It's evening now in the UK and unfortunately I'm winding down now, and have a fairly busy week ahead... However, I will absolutely do my best to reply to you as soon as I can... Take care 💖💕
@berrycheesecake90 I thought I would let you know why I care... I feel your pain (from things you have written) because of my similar experiences. You are young enough to still make a big difference in your life (as I have said, there are answers, which I am more than happy to share with you). Your body is already telling you the answers and you are listening (because you have discovered somatics). You write about self love and the universe etc (that is the perfect start to understanding and reconnecting)...
Which parts exactly
Not sure exactly what you mean but this.
@berrycheesecake90 Hello Berry... That's interesting, I have been thinking I should write to you (after leaving you in peace... hopefully you have had a good break?) and I see you have just upvoted me about our shared birthday 😊 (I am intuitive)... Firstly I should thank you for Somatic Experiencing (hopefully you have seen my recent comment on your thread), I didn't know the term, but it's very foundational for everything I have been writing about... I have also decided to set up a Listener Account, if you are interested (I can give you the details)... However Listeners should not give advice... but I believe professional referrals for help/support is acceptable.
Yes ill return to this soon, is just alot of decisions and im trying to take it gently
@SilverTabbyCat63 alright i do have a question on somatics, how do i apply them when the trigger is from online? maybe u might answer this maybe not, but sometimes there can be real triggers from online and sometimes online can be both good and bad
I agree, there is some good online, but unfortunately far too much bad. This is where having experience and knowledge helps to understand... I know I have given you a lot, but you already seem to have a good understanding. By putting it in writing for you, it's always there for you to look at anytime and at your pace... You are actually helping me too, so thank you again... I recently mentioned grounding techniques, this is a good start for both of us, and you helped me understand that better!... Also the meditation does really help to quiet the triggers and therefore reactions... However, like if you were to go to the gym it takes time to improve, and unfortunately less time to loose, so you need to keep going... I'm hoping you saw my message about Fascia, on your Somatics thread (just earlier) that should hopefully help you understand something more about the Somatic/Body reactions. Plus the 3 videos in total on your Somatics and my Who knew? threads, to understand better about the neuroscience and importantly the Vagus nerve... If you are also able to contact Dr Arielle Schwartz, hopefully she can assist you in finding local trauma informed teachers, so you can perhaps be with others who understand... I'm going to include another YouTube video link below on breathing, again this is absolutely essential, foundational and and grounding technique... Sorry again for being a lot, but take your time, and you know how to contact me... So think in the order of Safe Environment (which I believe is difficult for both of us). Grounding/Body, including Breathing (and Yoga etc). And Meditation...
Sorry, another PS... Meditation is good to do in the morning to start your day well, and before sleep to (process the day and) sleep better... Any additional meditation (and Grounding etc!) during the day is great too.
Breathing video link...
https://youtube.com/watch?v=a1k0UNK-3dg&is=gkRNi6kC3LzrKDwW
PS I would love to share more with you about Grounding Techniques... Again, from experience, I can help more than Google AI Overview can...
I have mentioned somewhere before about, this is breathing into the belly (even into pelvis), not chest... But again, if you can find a local teacher, they can help you with all this.
@SilverTabbyCat63 alright i have been trying but it aint easy
Yes, I know and understand... even for me with lots of experience it's not easy, especially just from online and written words... That's why I was hoping you could find a teacher (from the Doctor I mentioned) who understands and could hopefully help... You do seem to have some good knowledge and understanding, you are going in the right direction... You too have that intuition and your body is talking to you and you are listening... Don't think of it as Yoga, especially the media idea of yoga, but think of it as reconnecting, which is what the word Yoga actually means, and your body is wanting to do (reconnect). Hopefully the videos help you to understand what to expect and what happens... We could start together, with grounding techniques... Hopefully you know a good amount about me now (from my profile and our chats etc) and what happened to me. If you feel comfortable, hopefully you could tell me a little more about you, so I can understand better, and not accidentally trigger you etc... Take your time, take care and be gentle with yourself...
I'm going to tell you something that might be difficult to hear, but I'm sure you will understand... I'm sure you know from botanical stuff that the tree that is flexible can survive the storm... The organic fruit that has to struggle to survive has the flavour nutrition and medicine to protect itself and also give those benefits to us... You don't go to a gym to get strong, you actually damage your muscles and then the body repairs itself stronger when you sleep... The struggles actually help us all to grow (but most don't understand)... (If life was easy and perfect, it would be boring and give us nothing to move forward for. It's a tough lesson to learn, I know, and you are not alone 💖)... The modern world does unfortunately give us far more than any of us can usually and naturally bear, but you can trust yourself and hopefully find others you can trust to for the support we all need... We are social animals, but most just want to be selfish...
I decided to finally add something to the bottom of my Who knew? thread, which is really important (hopefully you will take a look) about Fight/Flight and why we get stuck with trauma, and what we should/can do (somatically).
@berrycheesecake90 Berry, hopefully you can see/sense I am genuine honest caring understanding (from real experience) and not giving the typical robotic replies... It is very difficult for both of us, not having face to face and having to rely on just the written word, which is just a small part of human communications... I can guess you might already (hopefully) be using Grounding Techniques, because you wrote about peppermint oil... Take care, good luck, and I'm here if you need 💖
I left you in peace for almost a week, however I have also been wanting to apologise for my enthusiasm for finally being able to speak with someone who wanted to talk and knew about somatic therapies. I can imagine I was probably overwhelming for you. I would also like to thank you for being my teacher too.
I agreed with you about needing breaks because I get overwhelmed too.
