TK Reboot
A chat between two platonic friends from across the interwebs.
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I don’t understand why men are so gross.
I've answered this a lot of different ways... And I hope this doesn't sound vulgar, but imagine having a sentient parasite attached to you that floods your brain and body with chemicals, making you seek out women, or things that involve actions, and kind of keeps you just ever so slightly on edge and irritated on a constant basis. I'm uh... Talking about testosterone. But, like, different personalities with different histories deal with it differently. What I do want to make clear, however, is that all of this isn't an excuse for gross/abusive/creepy/aggressive behavior. Women have plenty to deal with too that influences their lives and decisions. Everyone does. We all have to learn to deal with it, and that should never involve a lifestyle and legacy of making the world a worse place.
I totally understand. I had a male best friend a years ago, and we talked about this. Essentially… We’re wired differently. It’s true. I understand that.
But treating us as objects isn’t ok, no matter how men are wired.
Strongly agreed. There isn't any excuse for that...
I hate what our society does to us. Cycles of abuse are just absolutely catered to... And as soon as rights start becoming more equal, the push to extinguish them comes right behind
I just want the right to exist without being catcalled.
How often does the catcalling happen? I feel like there should be an app to mark catcallers. They're the most likely to be aggressive...
It’s not catcalling per se, but it’s people calling me beautiful, being creepy, saying weird things…
That makes sense... I feel like the "beautiful" comments could be genuine on a level (or grossly artificial), but the context matters a lot. Does it help to think of the people doing that as insecure?
If I had to have comments at all, I’d rather not have them from 60-80 year old men.
True, especially lechy weird ones. But preferably just from people who you actually know and who don't have direct weird intentions.
That said, I've met girls who've never been called beautiful (like from their family or anyone good), and that makes me sad.
I’m glad the guys my age aren’t like that… But it’s also a little lonely? When I’m just one of the guys? It’s a fence… Which side am I standing on?
Yeah… We should all hype each other up <3
You're just one of the guys? I think that's pretty cool if you fall into that, but I can see it being lonely. What do you mean about which side you're standing on?
I agree. I wish people would do it more. People are mean and gossipy and evil so often
Yeah, generally. With the guys my age. I’m a bro. Lol
Idk if I like being a bro or I’d rather have more.
Very.
Do you ever take interest in any of the guys that you're a bro around? That could make you both a bro and more. Also, only the coolest kinds of girls can be bros. 😁 It's rare and good.
Not really. They tend to be young and immature lol
Thank you hehe! I guess im the coolest kind of girl lol
Eh, it was worth a thought
Lol, you definitely are. ☺️
I am the Princess of Genovia.
I don't know the reference. 😜
Your next line is, “Shut. Up!!!” ;)
Lol, good to know 😁
I wrote to you on the “pretty” post
I'll check it. Wonder why it never let me know
The site is dumb? Lol
Lol, it certainly can be. Ugh, I'm stressed out today. I need to make a dentist appointment, an appointment for something else, and the guinea pigs need nail trimmings, and my driver's license expires after today... I'm still waiting for my new one to come in the mail.
Guess who’s riding his bike tomorrow???
His bike? I dunno, confused. Lewis?
You? No license…
I'm so confused 😅 what?
You can’t drive without a license, dork. Hehe
Ohhh, lol, I thought the subject got changed. I have an email saying it's approved and being sent to me .. so I can use that along with my old license. I really, really don't wanna get pulled over without it though
I can't ride a bike... 😅 I've tried so much. I mean, with training wheels it's great, but...
Print it out.
Dude it’s not just me???? I can’t either!!!!
I didn't need to, got the real thing just now! 😁
Dude, I can balance well, just not on a bike. I don't know how anyone stays on long enough to get used to it
Yay! That was fast <3
Same. Balancing is HARD…
Lol, it wasn't from my perspective, they took weeks.
Dude, it really is. I was able to balance on a skateboard pretty well
I fall off. Lol
Saaaame. Bikes are impossible
Last time I rode a scooter, I broke my ankle.
Whaaaat? That sounds so painful. I've never ridden a scooter that much
I wasn’t told it was broken before I rode it. -_-
Oh ***. That's messed up that they wouldn't tell you that...
Yep. My thoughts exactly…
I almost fell off a weird merry-go-round today. I had to hold on so tight to the ropes that my hands felt weird for a while.
What weird kinda merry go round was that??? With ropes???
Also, I walked on my broken ankle for a week before we realized it was broken…
That's no bueno. It didn't cause lasting harm did it?
No, but my foot clicks when I walk now hehe. It’s either from that, or from getting stepped on by a horse years ago. Lol
Well, hopefully that's just fine then. 😅
It’s funny hehe
No idea, it was kinda fun though 😅 found a slightly hidden park, and it was a really nice one for kids.
My tummy hurts
Mine did too. I'm tired of tummy blahs
What’s wrong with us lol
Meh, I've had this problem for forever. I need to eat more fruits and veggies
Ditto.
Men suck. I hate all of them.
Pretty much, but you still don't hate aaaaall of them, do you?
No, but… the scary ones.
I couldn’t sleep last night… Had to deal with men and boundaries yesterday :(
I'm sorry. : / What happened?
Can’t give details… But I am so emotionally spent. I couldn’t sleep for a couple of hours last night because of the anxiety… I kept tossing and turning. I’m so exhausted now…
This seems to come up now and then. If you ever want to talk about it, I'm here. I had a similar night, but my anxiety was over my appointment today
The anxiety or the abuse?
I always wanna talk about it…
How come?
Either, but... I'm not sure what really happened. I want to support you either way.
Eh, I had several problems come up... It's all minor. It's likely from my focus on exercising more lately
It’s not something I can share, unfortunately. Just know that men have made it so I’m scared of everything, flinch inwardly, watch my back…
How so?
I wish you never had to feel that way.
Eh, I just have to be careful how I work out in this summer heat mostly
I’m a girl.
Why should girls ever have to feel that way?
Thank you. Exactly.
I feel like garbage rn :’( The emotional stuff plus a migraine plus not sleeping last night
Not sleeping and migraine sounds horrible. You need rest badly in that case
I don’t get rest.
That policy should be changed. Everyone needs rest
Not me. I’m a robot.
Me too. I mean, I have a sneaking suspicion that I'm an AI. 😅 But no really, I'm having to chill a little today from not resting enough if I'm. We've gotta learn to chill
Work. It exists. Lol
Lol, relax during work. I do. 😁
I can’t
Why not? You should be able to take at least a moment here and there... Can't you?
When I can, but not always.
I know how that is. My job is very "hurry up and wait."
Mine is quite the opposite lol. Unless I happen to get stuck on hold for some reason. Ugh…
On hold? I take it you do a lot of calls?
Sometimes.
I say that because making phone calls is part of like a bazillion jobs. Therefore, I feel safe saying it lol
Heh, true. I have to do calls at mine too, partly 😜 I hate doing calls though
How come?
Honestly? I hate talking on the phone. I always have.
Me too, but somehow it’s a lot easier at work for me. I follow mental scripts too lol. Much easier for me lol
True. Same, but I have one that doesn't work with, and I have to deal with him all the time. I like him in person, I like him as a person, but seriously... I regularly have calls with him that last over 30 minutes, because I have to give him two days worth information that he should either already know or have copies of. Then, I have to fix everything up with his decisions. Again, he's a cool guy, but if I was dating someone who expected me to spend that much time on the phone, I'd have to have a talk or straight-up break up with them over it. 😂
I used to like long phone calls with lots of silences with my best guy friend. (I cringe now. He probably felt so awk lol). Now I just straight up HATE phone calls. I did then too, but more now I think
Lol, see, it's always those silences.
You know what's worse though? When a bunch of group texts start popping off and you're too busy to even check what's going on.
Well you’d hate me then. I like hanging out in the car in silence. Lol
Mute those lol
I don't mind silence like that. It does get awkward over the phone though. 😂
I do mute them, and then they constantly create new groups to kick people in and out based on the event or topic. I'm not in one of the main ones. That's the football talk group. I have zero interest in the subject. 😜
Just… Make a Dis Cord lol
Whatcha mean?
So y’all can have multiple topics lol
Nah, they're old school, they're probably just gonna do it like they do.
But… you can’t leave a text group lol
Lol, such is the conundrum... They started blowing it up when I was at the movies yesterday all of a sudden, on yet another new group chat
SMH lol
My tourette's is getting worse... I'll start saying fragments of sentences out of nowhere, it's happening a little at work now, and some days it just doesn't seem to want to stop happening
Mine too. And same!!!! Why???
Maybe my thoughts have been more stressful lately... But that's all I can really think of
Same.
Do your tics sound like sense or nonsense?
Usually nonsense, but it worries me when they make more sense. Sometimes I say things that sound a bit on the creepy side when without context. 😂
Do tell hehe
Stuff like... It's hard to remember. I was reminded that one time I just kept saying "dead" while I was driving. I think another was something like "just ****-ing burn it". 😂
Usually I'm just repeating echos of conversations though, whether recent or years past.
Heh. Mine tend to be on the romantic side. Which would be SO embarrassing if overheard lol
I think I’m swearing off men again.
I feel so d**d inside rn.
Idk how to socialize anymore…
How do I feel everything and nothing at the same time