TK Reboot
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@Torean
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I like what you wrote!
I solemnly vow to be pure and above reproach, innocent and with good intentions.
Thank ya!
I promise the same.
For today's first topic, I made a new recipe last night.
It's called "Burger with the Lot" it's an Australian recipe.
It's like a regular burger, with an egg, pineapple, and beetroot.
My synopsis, is that the flavors do work, but it's highly advisable to use fresh pineapple (not canned, what's wrong with you people?) and to actually grill the burgers. I don't have a grill, so that part didn't happen, but otherwise it was pretty good.
That sounds amazing! I think I’ve had something similar, just not with beets.
Fresh fruit > canned lol
The beets were welcome, but didn't add very much
They’re pretty flavorless in and of themselves.
I like what flavor they do have. 😋
Bible reading thread starts here!
This one is for you to kick off!
Remind me later lol
Remindo
Later-er. Lol! Like, tomorrow lol
Later-er remindo
Challenge thread starts here!
My challenge is for you to cook something that you've never tried before
I don’t have cooking access lol. I’m eating new fruits tho! Lol
No cooking access? How so? And what's that apple you were talking about?
I only have access to a microwave, toaster, and mini fridge. Makes things difficult sometimes.
I ate an opal apple today :)
I gotcha. You could toast some things still! What's an opal apple like?
It’s more tart than I expected. Closer to a Granny Smith, but not that tart. It was still good, I just prefer sweeter apples.
Also, ready for your first challenge? :)
Huh, I'll try one if I can find one
And fo' sho'!
Healthy eating challenge starts here!
I'm having some soup with veggies, black beans, and beef. Breakfast was peanuts and pineapple
Intriguing breakfast hehe
I had meatloaf and corn and peas for lunch <3
Very nice. I'm having BBQ pork tenderloin tonight, with some kind of veggie. Unsure as of now.
What was it?
Green beans and mashed potatoes. Can't go wrong with those
Mmm too basic. Hehe
You're right. It should have been garlic mashed potatoes 😁
Orrrrrr asparagus and new potatoes ;)
Not bad, I'd like that too. 😁
I’ll prolly try the passion fruit tomorrow.
I like passion fruit, but I don't know how to describe it
How do you eat it????
You just eat the seeds, don't try to eat the rind
So everything is edible except the outside?
I think so? It's been a while. Definitely the seeds though, that's what you're supposed to eat.
I officially do NOT like passion fruit. I forced myself to eat half of it because it’s good for me, then gave the rest to my coworker lol
Lol, really? It's not my favorite I guess
Wayyyyyy too sour lol
I told my old bestie about my dad and stepdad dying, and about my ED… Got his number again too. Emotional evening…
I feel exhausted now. But like… different than typical exhaustion. Like it was an exertion to finally open up to him…
I get it being an exertion. I'm super proud of you though! How did it go overall?
Oh. I was hoping you’d go deeper than that lol
I'm ready to go deep, I just wasn't sure what to ask first. 😅
Ask. Hehe
Well, what made you finally reach out? How did he react?
I think I’ve been subconsciously trying to psych myself up to do it for awhile. We were close for years, but I think we fought (about who knows what) and stopped texting. I don’t even think he remembers. But we’ve both trauma dumped on each other (for lack of a better term), and I know he can handle whatever I tell him. I just… idk. Idk if he wants me back in his life. He’s younger than me too, so he talks a lot to the younger ones. I wonder if he just humors me…
If you feel that way, maybe try to focus on a topic he brings up next time? I think it at least alleviates the anxiety... Sometimes.
What all did you talk about?
He doesn’t really talk about deep stuff to me. Just to his younger friends.
My dad and stepdad dying, my eating disorder, etc.
Maybe he just needs to feel more comfy. What did he talk about?
He got more or less seriously ill while he was gone. Luckily he was fine…
Well, that's good. It sounds like he opened up about something too. I'd say that's something
Didn’t talk to me much today.
He did talk to you though?
Kinda. Like, superficial work stuff.
It's something. Anything changed since then?
Not really. Maybe slightly closer. But nearly imperceptibly.
Progress might be slow, that would be understandable
Meh. Next to nothing.
It can be hard to reconnect. What has happened since though?
Gonna draw today! Give me like 10 ideas for drawings? But keep them pretty basic lol
A shelf of potions with differently shaped bottles.
A garden gnome
A jackal
A can of coke
A ceiling fan
A breakfast of bacon and eggs, maybe some french toast for extra credit
Superman
A palm tree (or more than one)
Saturn
A gravy boat
I’m not feeling those hehe. Maybe something cuter. Or something more masculine. Idk lol
A cake with a heart drawn in icing on top?
I drew two peeking animals and a butterfly surrounded by flowers. Need more tho hehe
A park sunset?
I drew another moth. At the same Panera. Man am I depressed rn
My heart hurts and I’m stressed inside :(
For why?
This thing with him last night. He hasn’t texted me back either.
There could be so many explanations, but if he's being passive aggressive, then he doesn't deserve to have that power over you. You were trying to be friendly and everything, there's nothing you should be ashamed of. I know all of that doesn't totally help, but I hope you get to figure it all out soon.
I just wish I could stop overthinking it. It’s probably nothing. Idk
I'd be feeling the same way honestly. It's nothing wrong with you, I think it makes a lot of sense.
What if he wants nothing to do with me?
Then, it's his loss, and given your history, you deserve to hear something direct either way. I know it'd hurt, but I'll still be here to help make sense of what's next. All of us here will.
I May only be able to tease him into an answer… And then, the answer may not be honest if he doesn’t want anything to do with me
You don't have to tease... Maybe just try to test if the lines of communication seem open by starting with anything else?
I did, he’s not responding.
Maybe it's still all good, he might be slow on replies these days?
Idk. I vaguely remember him saying years ago that he doesn’t respond to work texts on his days off. I get that… But still, he stay quiet.
That makes sense, try not to worry too much, you're doing your part as best as you can
He’s been mostly silent.
It's hard to get a handle on what that could mean without being there... It probably-maybe doesn't have as much to do with you as it might seem though...
My mom suggested speed dating. I was googling it, and the thought of men just turned my stomach.
Oof, speed dating might not be for you. Seriously... I worked at a restaurant that hosted it, and all the people who did it were soooo weird, often creepy too. I don't really judge people, but I got a little uncomfy and weirded out multiple times.
Yeah… I don’t want to encounter creeps. Or men who will abuse me again.
I don't want you to encounter those people either. Have you ever thought of having someone as an accountability partner for dating? Like help you flesh out any doubts as they come up, and help you to act how you need to? That's a random idea that I just now came up with. It's hard to fully be oneself in a relationship, because it's easy to get stuck in what the other person thinks and does.
I loathe the idea of dating rn. While still being attracted to guys. I don’t understand myself.
A lot of the best of us feel that way. The possibilities seem nice, but there's so much in-between square one and getting somewhere good in dating.
No one could love me like he did.
Like who?
My ex.
No way. Soooo many people could love you so much better than that. Abusers may have a whole spectrum of possible issues, but having issues with love is a big commonality
I didnt mean him, i meant the man I planned to marry.
Oh, I don't know if you've talked about that before? I don't remember
He left me the night we went to premarital counseling.
Yoooo, what? Do you know why?
Wasn’t a good fit. We were falling out of love a bit… but the timing was so painful. We were talking to my pastor about getting married… and then a matter of hours later, he was gone.
He owed you more of a discussion than that... Even if he was definitely gonna leave...