@FaithfulScout and @quickwittedWest5643
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This is your original post ...
Hi,
As I am sitting on my bed this morning enjoying my cup of coffee, I notice that I'm tensed up and my mood is dark. Why, you might ask... I wish I knew.
The first thing I think of after noticing this is be a safe space (I don't have the support I need. Yes, I am loved and cared for, but I don't have emotional support)
Now, here is where I need advice :...how can I become my own safe space if my body and mind go against my wishes?
Let me explain, I would usually make a decision now to allow myself to feel without judgment or ask why for a few minutes, then I will enjoy my day.
However by midday I'm as depressed as can be, and I become a horrible person.
How can I become my own safe space if my body and mind go against my wishes?
@quickwittedWest5643
This is my response ...
I see my mind and body working together.
In the first example, when my body interrupts my mind with something, it isn’t going against my mind, it is informing it: I’m being alerted to something. I used to be a very anxious person, and in my spiritual practice, I was taught that the things my body “alerted” me to, were mostly false alarms.
Once I accepted that reality, then I started to uncover what was really going on. In the 2nd example, “by midday I'm as depressed as can be” … my practice takes extra steps to uncover what might be going on with me that day, at that very moment.
@FaithfulScout
And now, here's the continuation of our conversation ...
I think this would be the starting point of my explanation.
“But now there is no threat, and I have allowed myself to feel”
In my experience, what you are describing to be a "feeling", I see it as a misinterpreted threat.
I’ll pause here so we can discuss in more detail or ask questions.
(Thanks for trying this!)
Thank you so much for your time and patience.
Okay, a misinterpreted threat is something I can deal with by reminding myself of the truth.
I am wanting to ask what if I don't know/can't say what or why I feel, how can one then deal with the misinterpreted threat?
I want to answer my own question with being honest with the fact that there is not actual threat. - I know and do this and do this, but it's to no avail.
I won't stop, I will push through.
@quickwittedWest5643
I thank you for your patience!
I think this is a 3 part question: “what if I don't know/can't say what or why I feel, how can one then deal with the misinterpreted threat?”
Part 1 - Acceptance: I needed to accept that any negative feeling is probably a misinterpreted threat (even if I can't name it or describe the feeling). Once you have this acceptance, then you can work on your intervention.
Part 2 - Intervention:
Like before, let’s pause for other questions (and to allow my mind to settle down, since this is my first time interpreting what I have learned for someone else 🙂).
@Faithfulscout,
You make me smile.
I never thought of every feeling as a misinterpreted feeling, I always thought that some might be a desire that needs to be filled (example is like being held by mom like a 3 year old)
Thank you.
@quickwittedWest5643
I am so glad to be helpful ☺️
