Coping with distorted perceptions

When splitting, borderlines can see people in a completely negative and accusatory way which can make the borderline act out in distressed, manipulative ways in response to feeling threatened. I want this thread to be a way to make coping with splitting easier and minimize damage that comes from it.

1. Let go of control: The first thing you can do is remind yourself that ultimately you are only in control of yourself and your own decisions. Other people have their own boundaries that are important to respect. Other people may wish to do things that you'd disagree with but that's okay because you are only in control of your own values/beliefs/actions. Remember that people don't owe you anything, you aren't entitled to their time, their love, their attention, or anything else. You can only be greatful for the love that is given to you freely while respecting freedoms anyway.

2. Process your feelings: You can take time to understand how you feel, however painful or hard it is to admit. You can vent it all out in a journal and then look back onto it to analyze your thoughts in more reasonable ways. Ask yourself when you lack empathy? How do you feel when you remind yourself to be more understanding of other's perspectives?

3. Be Patient: Sometimes simple things help more than you'd expect. Taking a walk or meditating when waiting for someone can go a long way. You can produce healthy results by disciplining yourself to be calm and collected even though you give yourself time to cry it out and vent your frustrations.

Please add on and offer your own opinions on how to improve the points I already wrote if you want to! :)