Helping people with BPD [Tips]

I found some post on the Internet, from some book about BPD a while ago and I wrote it down, so I'd like to share.
Personally, I find this kind of support very helpful for my BPD and my mental health, and these tips also encourage the self-care of the person who is in any kind of a relationship/friendship with someone who has BPD. I understand that people are confused with all of our behaviors and our symptoms make it very difficult to understand what's going on both for us and you. That's why people are often making mistakes.

But if you want to support someone with BPD, this is what most of us find helpful:

✓ Step back and try not to take BPD behaviors personally. Realize that BPD makes controlling emotions a difficult task. However, people with BPD sometimes mistreat the people they love. By telling you not to take things personally, we arent suggesting that you allow yourself to be abused — either mentally or physically.

✓ Have a support group or therapist help you maintain your physical and mental health and keep your thinking clear. People with BPD can make the worlds of the people around them highly confusing and chaotic, so you need to maintain some connection to reality.

✓ Dont try to be a therapist. You cant solve the problems that your loved one with BPD is experiencing. In fact, you can make matters worse by trying to do so.

✓ Understand but dont accept. You need to fully grasp whats going on and why, but you also have to know your limits — dont let someone with BPD run you over.

I have one friend who's behaving similarly to what's writtien here, also my parents are like that, and that makes me feel like someone truly understands. Not taking things that we do/say personally, but understanding it as our disorder can be soooo helpful, so so so much, but as the rest of the text says, it's also important to set some limits and take care of yourself.

Hope this helps someone,
YourBestFriend