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Jealous over my favorite person

User Profile: redNorth640
redNorth640 April 24th, 2019

So my favorite person is a social butterfly. She's always so busy with her other friends that she has very little time for me. We met about a year ago so i'm her newest friend, and i always feel like there's no "room" for me in her life. We go to the same college and that's pretty much the only way i get to see her. Her schedule is literally so full that she barely has time to text me sometimes. On the rare occasions when she's not busy with studying, or her friends or boyfriend, I try to rearrange my schedule around her just so that i can see her. I can't help but feel jealous when she hangs out with her other friends, and it makes it worse that they get to have her time and I don't. I feel like i'm the bench player waiting for a chance to participate and all her other friends are in the starting lineup. I complain about it to her every once in a while, but she just brushes it off and tries to reassure me, but never does the effort to make time for me. Sometimes i get the sense that she's flattered, and probably enjoying it, even.

Anyway, I feel like my jealousy is still manageable most of the time, but the thing is that the summer break in college started a week ago in my country and now i don't see her anymore. But her friends do, and i'm struggling to keep my jealousy in check. We won't be together next semester either since we're taking different classes (but she'll be with her other friends of course) which is adding up to the jealousy. Now she's on vacation with two close friends and she's excited to send me pictures and i'm just boiling with anger at the thought of seeing them.

What do you guys think i should do? Did you ever go through anything similar? And if you did, what helped you through it?

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User Profile: Amy8
Amy8 April 27th, 2019

@redNorth640

Hiya,

I understand that you feel jealous. It sounds like everything is coming from one side and she isn't making the effort to talk to you. For me, this relationship doesn't sound like it's making you feel good and happy.Do you really want to keep being a friend with someone who doesn't really makes an effort to talk to you?

Isn't there a way you could make other friends? Maybe a course you can take in something you find interesting? Or a sport you like to play?

I wish you good luck and take care! <3

User Profile: alostsoul1
alostsoul1 May 2nd, 2019

@redNorth640

hello, im so sorry to hear that. im kind of in the same situation, my fp is always flirting with me and hes always making me feel so special but then i see him kind of flirt with my friends and it makes me so fricking mad i cant tame my anger and anxiety. i hate him but i love him at the same time and AAAAAAAAAAAAAH i cant handle this