Relationships are hard
So, I have BPD and ADHD on top of that, I guess I should lead with that. But like how do you introduce your new partner to the things they will have to deal with. I’ve been in this new relationship for about a month and she knows I have BPD but doesn’t really understand what it is. And I think it’ll be weird if I lead the conversation with that some day. Like, how do you help yourself with not thinking they actually despise you because of something you think they think. Does that make sense? I don’t know, I guess I just need help from the people who have actually been through kinda the same line of thought
It might be awkward but it maybe necessary. I know my partners have appreciated it when I sat them down and explained what moods i might shift from and how they shouldn't worry too much because it not their fault for the most part if I suddenly switch moods the next day or even the same day.
@tidyPine4107 It sounds like you feel unsure whether you should talk to the person you're dating about your mental health struggles. On one side, you really want them to be able to meet your needs. On the other side, you fear being abandoned or making the relationship worse. Your feelings make sense. It's not easy to talk about your issues with your partner, but it is usually for the best to do so.
If you would like more information about this topic, I have included some resources.
You can read an article about Telling a new partner about your mental health problem (from RelateUK.)
or you can read this article from NAMI about having Romantic Relationships in the context of mental illness.
It's understandable that you're nervous about elaborating on your disorder. It's important to express your needs in a relationship. You won't need to label it as bpd symptoms, but you both will slowly learn more about each other