BPD
I’m on the verge of losing my person and I’m not okay. I’ve been hearing voices that sound so real — the voice of a woman, and what sounds like my boyfriend having phone sex. I’ve reacted negatively and I’m pushing him to the point of leaving. :(
@donthatekate
Hi, sorry that that's happening. Sounds scary to feel like you're going to lose someone special that you're reliant on. 😢
Just want to make sure I'm understanding what's happening. Is this the situation? (Please do correct if I'm misunderstanding.)
- You're really afraid of losing your boyfriend
- Because of that fear/stress, you're hearing voices (having auditory hallucinations) that involve him cheating on you
- The voices are making you feel more stressed, but when you share what you're hearing or your fears with your boyfriend hoping to work through those fears, it feels like it makes things worse or increases the tension/conflict
Yes exactly!!!! That’s 100% on point
@donthatekate
Great, glad I understood. 💜
You mentioned that you're on the verge of losing your boyfriend. I'm wondering what your boyfriend has been saying or doing that leads you to think that he's at the point of leaving?
(Basically, I'm sort of curious what he's thinking/feeling. I feel like if the goal is to have him stay, maybe part of making that happen will involve trying to understand what's making him uncomfortable or causing him stress and seeing if there's a way to alleviate that and care for his needs--while still taking care of your own feelings and caring for your needs.)