Me and My BPD
My husband constantly says things about my BPD. I don't understand why he says it's cute and that he can't get mad at me ,to him screaming at me to fn stop because I'm to weird for him. Says he doesn't mean it the an hour later says it again but adds something extra hurtful at the end this time.
@NoxVeyra028
Hi, welcome to 7 Cups 💜 I'm sorry your husband's acting that way. It sounds really confusing and contradictory, and I can't say I understand his actions either. In one moment your BPD is endearing and not a problem, and then in the next moment he's saying that you're weird and yelling at you, and then later he's reversing direction and minimizing his own behavior.
Across all of the different ways that he responds to you (and your BPD), is there one that's closest to how you'd like him to treat you?
I'm not sure if he'd be open to looking at this, but this is a resource that sort of describes how friends/family of people with BPD can offer healthy support:
https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/borderline-personality-disorder-bpd/for-friends-and-family/
He doesn't even know I have the app....
Thank you I appreciate it anyway. Your so thoughtful
I can't even schedule a talk with you since I don't know his work schedule...I just wish my friend Ohio was still around yk.
@NoxVeyra028
Hey, you're welcome to just randomly message me whenever you like and normally I respond to messages within a day or so. I'd understand if that's not doable because it's too slow.
Better alternative might be using Browse Listeners. There's a thing where you can search for listeners and filter in different ways. The link below is a search filtered to listeners who are verified (i.e. they've passed a mock test chat administered by experienced community members) and who have BPD listed as a topic that they accept chats on. The listeners with a green dot next to their profile picture are listed at the top by default, which means their status is "online" and they should be available to chat immediately. (Though sometimes newer listeners will have the status set to online by default and they're not aware of it.)
https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/?badge=0&find=&sort=availability&category=44&ageGroup=&listType=listener&gender=&religion=&country=&language=&verifiedlistener=on
It sounds like he is not taking your disorder seriously, since one minute he is laughing at you and the next admonishing you. If he respects you enough to be in a relationship with you, he should educate himself on the condition that affects you daily. Belittling you and refusing to support you affects him too, if for no other reason than it creates more conflict in the relationship. I'm sorry you have to feel so unheard and confused, I truly get it. I hope your partner chooses to be there for you...like yesterday! You deserve it.