Personality Disorders Community Check-in: June 1st - June 4th
Dear lovely PD Support Community,
June, by James W. Johnson
Which emotions and feelings do you start this new month in?
Is there anything you are looking forward to doing this week?
Part of setting boundaries is learning about yourself. You have to have a self before you can create a boundary around the self [Karla McLaren]. What do you think of this quote?
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Which emotions and feelings do you start this new month in?
Started the month with awful feelings. Hurt, hate, bitter, aimless, grief, sadness, pain. Lots of pain.
Is there anything you are looking forward to doing this week?
Honestly, no. Feel like I want to sleep for a long time.
Part of setting boundaries is learning about yourself. You have to have a self before you can create a boundary around the self [Karla McLaren]. What do you think of this quote?
I think quote is accurate. I don't feel like I have a self. Maybe that's why I usually feel grief as my primary emotion.
Hi there @Aqua79, thank you for joining this check-in and sharing with us your feelings. I'm really sorry to hear that June has started with all those difficult emotions... it makes sense that you wish to sleep... do you feel those emotions and feelings subside when you sleep them over? (not sure this works in English, I hope you can understand what I mean).
I also get very well the sense of not having a self and grieving for this... Do you think it may help to try and focus on your values, for instance, as a base to start getting a grasp of your hidden self? There is a video I often re-watch and that helps me a bit when I experience this unstable sense of identity more intensively... Here's the link, maybe you'll find it helpful as well.
I'm sending you a safe hug from France, if that's ok
Which emotions and feelings do you start this new month in?
No emotion, in particular, My emotional condition was more stable at the start of the month.
Is there anything you are looking forward to doing this week?
Yes, I wanted to through some of my short courses and finish the projects I have at hand.
What do you think of this quote?
This quote amazed me, it thinks its quite true. I would like to write it down in my journal so I can keep it as a memo
Thank you for the post! 
Hi there @Irfa, thank you for checking in with us!
I am glad to hear that you are feeling emotionally stable and that you have a few goals related to your studies. I wish you all the concentration you need 
I'm also happy that you like that quote! I also find it pretty inspiring, it makes lots of sense to me.
Have a nice rest of the week and you're very welcome
@sunflower2480 Thank you, Have a nice week as well, wishing you best!
@sunflower2480
1. Which emotions and feelings do you start this new month in?
I dont understand this question.
2. Is there anything you are looking forward to doing this week?
Im looking forward to my appointment with my therapist tomorrow, but I dont know why.
3. Part of setting boundaries is learning about yourself. You have to have a self before you can create a boundary around the self [Karla McLaren]. What do you think of this quote?
I love this quote.I am still trying to find out who I am and boundaries are a helpful beginning spot.
Hi there @purpleTree4652, thank you for checking in with us!
I'm really sorry that my question sounds a bit confusing and unclear, basically I was just asking how you are feeling :)
How did the session with your therapist go? It makes sense to me that you were looking forward to it... therapy is an act of self-care and healing...
I'm happy you like the quote and I hope you're looking after yourself. I wish you a nice weekend!
@sunflower2480
Which emotions and feelings do you start this new month in?
I'm excited but also, slightly disappointed in mysef.
Is there anything you are looking forward to doing this week?
Signing up for classes at community college and also, working at a cool new place
Part of setting boundaries is learning about yourself. You have to have a self before you can create a boundary around the self [Karla McLaren]. What do you think of this quote?
Maybe creating boundaries can help establish a sense of self or self worth? Idk. It's interesting
@isucklol
Hi there, thank you for joining our check-in! It's nice to read from you again!
You mention being excited, which is great! but also slightly disappointed at yourself: do you know what is causing this feeling? I hope you're also able to feel some compassion...
Signing up for classes and working at a new place: I suppose this may be what is making you excited :)
I'm glad you find the quote interesting, and I agree with you, if we create boundaries and stick to them, our sense of self-worth can increase
Have a nice rest of the week!
@sunflower2480
Thanks for the nice comment. Well, I have dropped out of university (I hated my major and I didn't really try as hard in school as I should have) and I have told my parents (they are disappointed but my mom is more mad at me than my dad). I didn't realized there were other ways to solving my problem other than just dropping out.
@isucklol
I understand why you would be disappointed at yourself... however, I wonder if you also feel some pride? You were doing something you didn't like at all, something that doesn't feel true to how you are... and you found the courage to stop it. Can you see something positive in this?
You say you can now see different ways you could have handled your past situation. Again, it looks like you're gaining insight and growing... Is there perhaps a way to act with the current information you have?
Sending you a safe hug if that's ok
@sunflower2480
Yeah, been thinking of transferring to another school that's cheaper and easier (switching to a semester system from a quarter system).
Sure, kinda need the hugs atm
