Personality Disorders Community Weekly Check-in: January 6th - January 12th
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Hello!
im new here and I believe I have bdp.
I had a really bad day yesterday horrible day. I felt so alone empty I was furious all day cuz my bf was getting dinner with someone else and I just felt so alone and crazy.
but I just woke up today and I feel better
@Red789
Hi again Red, thank you for joining this check-in!
I am sorry to hear you had such a bad day yesterday. It must have felt so challenging to sit with those feelings of loneliness, anger and emptiness. I am glad you are feeling better today. Which coping mechanisms do you usually utilise to deal with such overwhelming emotions and feelings?
@admaiorasemper
hello! Thank you for replying. I actually kinda just realized that I have a disorder and I'm looking into getting help. I have terrible coping mechanisms, I self harm, I go on insane drinking binges or excessive spending. Yesterday I tried not to do anything so I stayed in bed all day. But I would appreciate any helpful and constructive coping mechanisms.
@Red789
There is a self-harm subcommunity here that you may wish to join: link
There you will find lots of posts that discuss alternatives to SH, for instance:
This is another great post that sets out distraction techniques according to the mood.
You may also find helpful to use some processing tools. Processing tools are things you can do to help you slow down the thoughts, process them and then act upon them calmly: for instance, journaling, drawing how you feel internally, meditation and talking to someone/venting. Other coping mechanisms that I personally find helpful are mindfulness tecniques. Also, have you ever heard of DBT? Perhaps you can join a local group in your area, or a group online. I have bought the DBT workbook a few days ago and I will start reading it, it is supposed to help a lot.
I hope this can help you a little bit <3
@admaiorasemper
thank you! I will check out the links you posted my self harm has gotten better over the years for sure. I haven't heard of dbt I'll definitely look into it
@Red789
just wanted to continue this thread. Feeling weird today idk how to explain it but feeling off
@Red789
Hi Red, I understand this sense of feeling weird and off, and the inability to explain it. Do you think it may be some sort of numbness? Or a disconnection from your own emotions?
When I feel this way, I usually follow my therapist's advice and try to ground myself. I sit in a chair and feel my weight against it, my feet flat on the ground, back straight and focus on my breath. I use this time to focus on what is going on in my body, where I feel tension for instance, and I try and cast the light of my focus onto it and give it time to grow and speak to me. Sometimes it does help... maybe it will be useful for you too...
@Red789
i have bpd and i have not dealt with it at all for the past year. it has caused me losing my relationship so all i can say you have to do everything in your power to work on it through therapy and medication - it helps.
@davdied
I'm sorry that the past year has been difficult and that you've lost some relationships because of it. But glad that you feel like there's some hope of improving things by working through it with therapy and medications.
@admaiorasemper
hello! Starting a new job tmro at a new company I'm gonna do my best to keep my emotions in check cuz I know I tend to have very intense emotions around big events
@Red789
Hi Red, welcome back :)
Congrats for your new job! It feels very positive that you are aware of the challenge that lies ahead for you tomorrow. Are you still feeling weird and off?
@admaiorasemper
hello! I still feel kinda weird. I got lunch with a friend today and I felt weird. Like I wasn't really there. I kept wanting to just leave
@Red789
That lunch with your friend sounds as a challenging moment for you, with some possible dissociation. I find your level of awarennes very positive. Do you know what may have triggered this need of leaving? How are you feeling today? I wish you a great first day at work :)
@admaiorasemper
I'm not sure why I wanted to leave she is one of my closest friends but I wanted to leave as soon as I got there. And thank you I'm excited but very nervous for my first day. I hope you have a good day too!
@Red789
Just wanted to say that you are in my thoughts. Hope you had a nice day at work!
@admaiorasemper
thank you! I had a pretty good first day. It was definitely overwhelming since it's a step up from my last job and I had a horrible boss at my last job but I'm excited for this opportunity
