Reason For Writing
I used to write a lot, I used to journal, write poems, song lyrics, random thoughts, short stories, etc. Now I barely write captions on social media posts. If I’m being honest with you and myself, I stopped writing because my partner was invading my privacy and reading my journal entries, my random thoughts, things I kept private and using them against me. I felt violated and like my trust was betrayed because what I wrote was sacred to me and was kept away for a reason.
Would you read your significant other’s diary or journal?
@lovliyellobone I'm not a good example. I don't have a significant other, but I do have a best friend and we read each others diary entries and if I find my brother's diary around the house I read it and if my other best friend left her diary around, I would probably read that too (only because I'm desperate to know more about her since she keeps her troubles from me). I think it comes down to boundaries and personal preferences: my friend who shares the diary does so because she wants to and I want to, whereas you didn't want to share and your personal space was invaded. My brother doesn't care if anyone sees his writings, but you obviously do. If my other friend had a diary and found out I read it without her permission, she'd probably be rightfully furious at me, so I understand.
I understand. Something important to you was violated, but I wish you luck to return to it. Maybe post some stuff here? I'd love to read it (with your permission of course!) I think you just need to take back your own power in this. I believe in you.
@lovliyellobone I can totally relate to how you feel. For me, writing has always been such a personal space—whether it’s journaling, poems, or just random thoughts—it’s all a way to keep things sacred and private. And I think the idea of someone, especially a partner, invading that space would feel like a real betrayal. It's something I’ve drilled into my family as well; my journal is off-limits. Even my father knows not to touch it, and it's always stayed that way. I do the same for others though—if someone doesn’t want their private thoughts read, I respect that. My brother’s got a different approach, though—his journal is more of a 'public property' , everyone writes in it or reads from it whenever they want. But personally, I don’t touch it unless he asks me to.
To answer your question, no, I wouldn't read my significant other’s journal or diary. I think it’s about trust and respecting each other’s boundaries. The things we write are our own , and if someone uses those private moments against us, it feels like they’ve crossed a line. So, I completely understand why you stopped writing, though—it's hard to share that kind of space when it's not respected. It really comes down to personal choices, but for me, keeping that trust intact is everything. But I really do hope you find a space to write - maybe a digital journal with passcodes?