3 Things to Do Differently in 2023

"Here are three things you should do differently going into the new year to get you closer to the life you want.

Do one thing at a time

Your attention is a limited resource, but most of us treat our attention as if it is limitless. We try to multitask and do all the things at once. But research shows the concept of multitasking doesn't actually exist, our brains cannot manage two tasks simultaneously. Attempting to juggle multiple tasks takes more time and causes more error.

Practice willingness (instead of gratitude)

Gratitude is great. It's very beneficial to spend time acknowledging and internalizing what you have and are thankful for. But for many of us in a challenging season of life, gratitude can feel inaccessible. Instead, this year you should practice willingness.

Willingness is useful whenever we feel ourselves fighting a situation. (Why can't it just be different?) Willingness is about meeting ourselves where we are, rather than wishing for a reality that isn't there. Willingness involves three steps:

1. Notice your emotions. Allow whatever is there, without judging feelings as good or bad. Just put a name on whatever you feel.
2. Stop fighting to make the situation what you want it to be, and accept it for what it is. For example, you can say "Right now, the situation is this," or "Although I may not like it, this is what I am dealing with in this moment."
3. Do whatever the situation calls for. Take the next, most effective step.

Make decisive choices based on your values

Values are guiding principles. Integrity, dedication, generosity, and independence are all examples of values. Values give us direction, they motivate us, and they ultimately give life meaning. They can also help us make optimal decisions in crucial moments. When faced with important decisions, ask yourself "What choice would be most consistent with what I care about in the long-term?"

Read the complete article available at Psychology Today!

Reflection:

What would you do differently in 2023?

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