Embracing Aloneness

“There is nothing wrong with being alone. In fact, it is prudent to say that we are always alone, even in the company of others, because we are experiencing our lives through our exclusive ‘view of the world’. Aloneness is a natural state of people, but it seems that modern society pushes for constant interconnection, constant social bond-making, and constant extroversion.

People seem to invest their entire being into social lives. We get into committed relationships and marriages, maintain many friendships, meet other people through studies and work, and thereby we perpetually hover between ourselves and others. This in itself is not that bad, but the problem emerges when we feel the need to sacrifice parts of ourselves for those bonds. Instead of having to adapt ourselves to the fit the needs of others, we must be so comfortable with ourselves that anything we do is out of our own free will. That comes from being comfortable with one’s own company.

Independent of all possible validation, we must already be able to feel self-validated. You develop your own voice when you learn to have healthier conversations with yourself, when you listen to your feelings, when you care for yourself. The time we spend meditating on the feeling of being ‘us’ is always productive and formative. Spending time with friends can also be worthwhile, since they will show you aspects of yourself that you may not see. However, friends cannot live your life for you, so they are merely part of your experience, not the experience itself. You are the one who has to create your life.”

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✨Discussion: To appreciate one's company, I'd think it takes a lot of discernment and talent. It is not merely a trivial matter. But once we do, anything is ours to appreciate. That is because we ALWAYS spend time by ourselves, which can occasionally be incredibly exhausting.

The best times in life come when we are having fun, and how can one have fun if they don't enjoy their own company? This is why the case for self-love must begin with how we view ourselves, including the ideas we decide to embrace, the feelings we allow ourselves to feel, and the choices we ultimately choose.

✨Reflection: What are your thoughts on embracing aloneness?

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