The Art of Safe Conversation and Mirroring

“Safe Conversations is developed by a top relationship expert, Dr. Harville Hendrix. The method is to empower people to talk without criticism, listen without judgment, and connect beyond differences.

The tool is to make it possible to talk with anyone about anything and experience connection rather than polarization.

THREE STEPS IN SAFE CONVERSATION

Mirror, validate, and empathize in a structured process to make connection possible.

MIRRORING: Mirroring is when you repeat(mirror) back what the other person has said, so they see that you are emphatically hearing them. The only goal here is to make the other person feel understood and heard.

Examples: “Let me see if I got that…?”, “You said…?”, “Is there more?”, “More and check for accuracy…”

VALIDATION: Validating is when you address the other person’s point of view and statement, so they understand that not only you hear them but you also put an effort to understand them. This unexpected gesture can help breaking down a wall in communication.

Examples: “ It’s totally understandable…” or “That makes sense to me…”

EMPATHY: Unlike sympathy, which requires for apprehension and feeling concerned, empathy is more about sharing another’s story and exhibit the ability to relate the experience. Empathy is a capability for human-to-human connection to feel and connect with another’s emotions, views or attitude.

Examples: “ Is that how you feel…?” or using ‘feeling words’ in your response.”

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✨Takeaway: This strategy aims to give people the confidence to communicate openly, listen without passing judgment, and connect despite differences. The goal of this method is to enable connection rather than separation when speaking with anyone on anything.

✨Reflection: What are your thoughts on this strategy?

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