Which Type of Love Relationship Are You In?
"In his triangular theory of love, psychologist Robert Sternberg suggested that good, loving relationships rest on three pillars–intimacy, passion, and commitment.
- Intimacy is the feeling of closeness that we have for our partners; how much we feel “connected.”
- Passion is the second pillar. As you might imagine, passion is the level of sexual attraction between partners.
- Commitment is the third pillar. It involves partners deciding to continue the relationship, they believe in the relationship’s value, and they make the conscious decision to avoid looking for other partners.
By looking at the levels of intimacy, passion, and commitment and the interaction between them, we can determine what type of love relationship we are in.
Here are the eight types:
- Consummate love. Partners share all three of the pillars. The couple is intimate, knowing each other well, they are able to sustain their passion for each other, and they are deeply and seriously committed.
- Romantic love is when the pillars of intimacy and passion are present, but there is a lack of commitment.
- Fatuous love is high levels of passion and commitment, but the intimacy pillar is missing.
- Infatuation is the type of love that is all passion–there is little intimacy or commitment.
- Liking/friendship is when there is intimacy–feelings of closeness and “s/he gets me!” but without passion or commitment, this type of relationship is really a friendship.
- Companionate love is when the pillars of intimacy and commitment are strong, but the relationship lacks passion.
- Empty love has the pillar of commitment, but intimacy and passion are lacking.
- Nonlove is a relationship where none of the three pillars are present."
Read the complete article available at Psychology Today!
Reflection:
What type of relationship do you have with your partner after analyzing these types?
*Unfortunately, I currently don't have a partner*
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@comfortableNight4463 hm, I think I'm in the friendship type with people that are closed to me.
@Wildarkberry Same scenario with my friends. Thanks for reading!
"In his triangular theory of love, psychologist Robert Sternberg suggested that good, loving relationships rest on three pillars–intimacy, passion, and commitment."
I think this is true and perhaps why relationships have issues and fall apart ....imagine a table with three support legs ....... then imagine one or two legs break or are gone.......... the table falls over / relationship falls apart.....
I think short term lacking in one area or another is fine ........but long term things fall apart.
So using list i would say I have #7 empty love ..... commitment yes but no intimacy or passion. i would call this the marriage killer.
@toughTiger6481 That's a great analogy. I agree, those three qualities are like a foundation for a good house.
@comfortableNight4463
Me and my fiancé have, I would say, consummate love. Since we do have a balance between intimacy, passion and comitment. A very interesting post! Thank you for sharing.
@professionalVision2624 That is amazing! I'm so happy for you guys. I wish y'all the best.
@comfortableNight4463
Thank you so much!