Break up: How to move on?
My partner broke up with me out of the blue. There is nothing I did; the reason for the breakup was that she wasn't happy with herself, that she was afraid of commitment, that she didn't feel she was good for me, and that she wasn't sure about her feelings anymore. We were in a long distance relationship (me in Europe, she in the US) and I just got into graduate school in her city. Of course I applied for myself as well but the main incentive was so we could be together. Now I'm struggling with a couple of thoughts. How do i rebuild my life and dreams when for a year I built it around the relationship? How is it possible to pour in so much love, care, dedication, money, time, and energy into a relationship and still end up hurt and alone? I see now that ultimately she would not have been good to me but I'm still struggling with the thought of moving on and healing when she is not a person I want to let go. How can somebody I love(d) so deeply and purely hurt me so incredibly much? Sorry for the amount of questions. I feel so alone but I know there are people who are going through something similar. Maybe you have some words of encouragement for me
Going through similar situation mate. I broke up too few weeks ago except that i wasnt in a long distance relationship. I'm still healing from that trauma and i keep on telling myself that life wont stop here, only i can change myself no one else can. You know you cant force people into loving you. No matter how much you love them, if they don't want you they dont want you, you see out of love you even applied for graduate in her city but what did she do? Why settle for less when the other person isnt even sure about their feelings for you. I promise you deserve so muchh better. Right now you might be feeling that why did it happen to you or why werent u enough for them but with time you will realise everything happened for a reason and God surely has better plans for you.
Hello, breakups are heartbreaking and I think we do take a certain type of trauma from them. You will feel alone now and you will feel all sorts of emotions. I’ve had a recent break up and all I could do was allow my emotions to flow and not suppress them. I journaled every day and I started to learn how to love myself. It took time and a lot of self care. I want you to know that you can and will get through this. You can move on and heal and you can be happy again - give yourself time.
Heyy, ur story is so relatable to me coz everything u just said is my exact story... when it comes out of the blue, it is devastating... was crying at 2am yesterday, lying on the bed and his words ringing in my ears...one day its like dont worry, i m here for u and the next day its like we r done... similar reasons that he wants to deal some of his own stuff and he isn't ready... but what about all those plans we made? I was gonna move to his city, my flights are booked...now what do i do when i move there? I want him to come back, i wrote a big email to him but didnt send it... what if he dosent bother? Getting dumped is the worst...we second guess ourselves, we lose hope and trust and we r back to sqaure one... its draining and cant do no more.
