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Relationship Stress Automated Taglist
by Tazzie
Last post
 September 16th
...See more Welcome to the Relationship Stress Taglist! This thread is an auto-updating list. The list is regularly updated and can be found below. Please direct any questions or issues to tommy [https://www.7cups.com/@tommy] via private message. Why should I join the taglist? ✔ Never miss out on the weekly check-ins ✔ Get tagged and notified by community leaders whenever a new relevant thread has been posted ✔ Become a more active member of the community. What do I need to do? ✅ To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words Please add me. ❌ To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words Please remove me. 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New to the Relationship Stress Community? Introduce yourself here!! ❤️
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 September 1st
...See more Greetings from the Relationship Stress Community!! Are you new to the Relationship Stress Community? Tell us some things about yourself and get to know others that joined the community this month! Question prompts: What brings you to the Relationship Stress community? What is one thing you love most about yourself (or, perhaps, your loved ones)? Benefits of being a member of the Relationship Stress Community: Give and receive support from others who are in relationships. Share your relationship journey (memories, struggles, challenges) in relevant topics comfortably. Participate in community activities and events (eg. Check-ins, Icebreakers, Forum Discussions) Plus, members who participate regularly could become part of the Relationship Stress team, as well! Here are some quick links for you to check out: our taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Join in to get updates on discussions and events. check out this post [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/] for updates on weekly discussions! check out our newest check-in [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressCommunityCheckInFebruary1723_347041/] here! check this post [https://www.7cups.com/forum/RelationshipSupport_66/IntroduceyourselftotheRelationshipCommunity_239/HowToGetStarted_134558/] with more information on how to navigate the community. If you have any question, do not hesitate to contact KatePersephone [https://www.7cups.com/@KatePersephone] (teens and adults) or reply on this thread! Do not be a lurker! Join us and introduce yourself here!! tagging our newest subcribers: @itzBailey114 @JGonza92 @faithfulSugar9905 @Princ3ss6621 @MentallyxiLLxTotallyxChill @Blueswan001 @Spreagadh @funnyCoconut6733 @sunnyFig7193 @selfconfidentCar6076 @CreateYourOwnFlow @Fmulana @Dashing00997955 @sleepy003 @jarfold416 @Bubbleswithtroubles @Heartbroken4eva @SocialHilbray @Novalee07 @lyssyl [a brown and white bear dancing together while holding hands] ------------------------- Are you new to the Relationship Stress community? Introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/NewtotheRelationshipStressCommunityIntroduceyourselfhere_164924/]! Do you want to be the first to get updates on discussions and events? Consider joining the taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Do you want to be updated on the weekly discussions in the Relationship Support Room? Subscribe to this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/]! Do you want to help out in the Relationship Stress Community? Consider becoming a forum supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSehAkk72S0RWV1oQ5zShECQ6s-_fDYaxPE974iHorzqNRo1Ag/viewform] or a room supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSetyJ7jp7W52-EIpqvFYLhfmpsgTW4BbzUwmi9r22OQ9AdH8w/viewform]! ------------------------- Edited by KatePersephone [https://www.7cups.com/@KatePersephone] 
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Tips for Dealing With Unhealthy and Abusive Relationships
by QuietMagic
Last post
 August 10th
...See more [TW: discussion of abuse] ------------------------- Types of relationships Relationships can be healthy, unhealthy, or abusive. 1) Healthy relationships Healthy relationships are not perfect, but most of the time they’ll have the following qualities: Respect, trust, and safety * Feeling supported by your partner and like you can rely on them * Maintaining respect even when there are differences or disagreements * Equal power when it comes to decision-making * Feeling like it is safe to be vulnerable and have emotional closeness Open communication * Being able to share things honestly without fearing punishment or ridicule * Being able to discuss sensitive topics like physical intimacy and economic/financial arrangements * Both people listen and try to understand and empathize with the other person's perspective Healthy boundaries * Respect for boundaries * Enjoy spending time together but can be happy apart * Okay to have some privacy and personal space * Okay to have your own interests, hobbies, and relationships with friends/family 2) Unhealthy relationships Unhealthy relationships lack some of the qualities listed above that are present in healthy relationships, for example: Lack of respect, trust, or safety * Not being able to explore or share feelings safely * Feeling like partner won't be supportive or listen if you share things * Feeling like if you share vulnerable things, your partner will use them against you * One person has all of the power to make decisions or is unwilling to compromise * One person’s needs and opinions are dismissed Communication issues * Not listening to what the other person has to say or having empathy * Ignoring, disrespecting, or minimizing feelings * Disagreements often turn into intense, hurtful fights * Frequent arguments without resolution * Avoiding discussing problems * Lying or dishonesty * Using insults, harsh criticism, or words designed to hurt during arguments Lack of respect for boundaries * Being coerced into doing things you don't want to do * Being pressured into only spending time with your partner * Strong jealousy and guilt-tripping when spending time with other people or on your own hobbies and interests * Being pressured into intimate or sexual activity * Invasion of privacy * Lack of respect for personal space or belongings 3) Abusive relationships Abusive relationships are similar to unhealthy relationships but also include a pattern of one person manipulating or frightening the other, usually to maintain power and control. Destruction of safety and trust * Threats (or acting on threats) to hurt you, themselves, loved ones, or pets * Threats (or acting on threats) to destroy things you own * Threats (or acting on threats) to spread rumors, share secrets, or share private photos/videos * Physical harm such as hitting, slapping, pushing, or restraining against your will * Physical or sexual touching that you do not consent to Harmful communication * Saying degrading, intimidating, demeaning, or humiliating things * Treating ideas, feelings, and experiences with contempt * Intolerance of disagreement and dismissing perspective completely * Blaming you for their problems and making you feel responsible for their behavior Absence of boundaries: isolation * Trying to prevent you from seeing friends/family or go to school/work * Pressuring to spend all of your time with them or guilt-tripping for not doing so * Trying to persuade you that other relationships don't matter or that they are the only one who cares about you * Telling you to not talk to anyone else or reach out for help about the relationship Absence of boundaries: control * Reading text messages, e-mails, or social media messages without permission * Trying to monitor and control what you wear, where you go, and who you spend time with * Expressing extreme jealousy and constantly checking up on you ------------------------- Tips for unhealthy relationships 1) Deciding whether to stay in a relationship If you’ve been trying to work on the relationship for a while, it may be worth asking whether the relationship is worth keeping. Some signs that the relationship is still worth working on and trying to improve: * You’re both willing to accept responsibility for things that need improving and work on trying to change them * You both haven’t given up on trying to improve things * You still trust each other enough to be vulnerable and forgive past mistakes * You still care about each other’s well-being * You’re still emotionally close Some signs that the relationship may not be worth trying to save: * You’ve both given up on things improving * You’re no longer emotionally or physically close * You have insurmountable differences in your values and goals * You no longer trust each other * It’s difficult to imagine being together in the future * The relationship has become abusive 2) Healthy communication Couples who have lasting and satisfying relationships tend to follow certain patterns in how they communicate with one another. Use “LARA” for difficult conversations: * Listen: listen with the goal of understanding * Affirm: confirm that you understand what's been said and try to find common ground or something they’ve shared that you can agree with * Respond: respond directly to any concerns or questions they’ve shared rather than talking past what they’ve said * Add: add your own perspective Use “I” statements: * This means using phrases like “I feel”, “I think”, and “I believe” when sharing things or giving feedback * This can help to avoid blaming or attacking the other person while communicating Use assertive communication: This is one of four communication styles: * Passive communication: being hesitant to share things; can lead to unmet needs * Aggressive communication: disregarding the other person's feelings; can lead to increased conflict * Passive-aggressive communication: expressing frustration indirectly (e.g. sarcasm, silence, subtle jabs); can create confusion or distrust * Assertive communication: expressing needs and feelings clearly while respecting the other person's perspective; helps build understanding and resolve conflicts 3) Healthy boundaries Boundaries are the limits, rules, and expectations that we establish for relationships with others. Some examples of boundaries: * Freedom to have your own thoughts or opinions * Limits on how much time you spend with someone * Control over privacy, space, and your body * Limits on what topics you are willing to discuss * Limits on how much emotional support you offer someone else One framework that can be used for communicating boundaries is DEAR MAN: * Describe: describe the situation * Express: express your feelings * Assert: state what you want * Reinforce: explain how the other person will benefit * Mindful: stay focused on your goal * Appear confident: present yourself as confident * Negotiate: be flexible and open to alternative solutions 4) Self-care Self-care is doing things that help with taking care of your well-being. Some benefits of self-care in the context of relationships: * Can help build resilience to stress so that difficult interactions don't affect you as much * Can help you recharge and recover after difficult interactions * Can help you have the personal resources to be able to engage with people effectively Some examples of self-care: * Taking care of your body through exercise, diet, and sleep * Setting aside some time for yourself to engage in hobbies or activities that bring you joy or relaxation * Connecting with friends or loved ones you enjoy spending time with * Acknowledging and processing emotions, for example through journaling or talking to a therapist * Engaging in spiritual practices like prayer, mindfulness, meditation, or yoga ------------------------- Tips for abusive relationships Why people stay in abusive relationships People in abusive situations often have good reasons for staying: * Fear of physical harm/injury if they try to leave * Fear of harm to friends, family, pets, or people who are trying to help them leaving * Fear of abuser taking away children or the challenges of being a single parent * Not having the means to leave or live alone, financial dependence on abuser * Having established relative control within the abusive situation (e.g. being able to predict partner's moods and skillfully manage them to minimize abuse) * Abuser has promised that things will get better or that abuse won't happen again * Feeling guilt at the idea of abandoning abuser or feeling a responsibility to help them * Caring for partner and still feeling love toward them and wanting the relationship to work * Feeling like they deserve the abuse or won't find anything better if they leave Staying safe while in an abusive relationship These are some things that can be helpful if you are not able or willing to leave an abusive relationship: * Find safe ways to communicate with friends and family (e.g. private phone, computer in a safe/trusted place) * Have a safety plan for different situations (e.g. what to do during incidents, keeping children safe). Here are a couple resources that might be helpful: https://www.dvccct.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/03/Domestic-Violence-Safety-Plan-DVCC-.pdf https://www.courts.oregon.gov/programs/family/domestic-violence/Documents/DVSafetyPlan.pdf * Reach out for support to a crisis line, counselor, advocacy group, or local services * Build as strong of a social support network as your partner will allow * Be kind to yourself and engage in self-care activities as you're able to [You can also review the tips listed above for unhealthy relationships and see if there are any items there that feel helpful or like you’d be able to implement them without risking your safety.] Leaving an abusive relationship These are some things that can be helpful if you are considering or planning to leave an abusive relationship: * Use a secure phone or computer while researching and planning how to leave * Notify trusted friends, family, and coworkers of your situation and any plans you have * Decide where you'll go. Domestic violence shelters can temporarily provide for living needs and help provide referrals to other services (e.g. legal help, counseling/-support, child care, employment programs, etc.). You may also be able to find long-term housing options or assistance programs. * Pack an emergency bag with essentials (e.g. clothes, medication, documents, items for children) * If able to do so without causing suspicion, change the passwords to your e-mail, social media, and financial accounts * Have a safety plan for different situations that might occur after you leave. Here are a couple resources that might be helpful: https://www.dvccct.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/03/Domestic-Violence-Safety-Plan-DVCC-.pdf https://www.courts.oregon.gov/programs/family/domestic-violence/Documents/DVSafetyPlan.pdf [Note: these tips mostly apply to domestic abuse situations where someone is living with their abuser] ------------------------- Sources The information above is condensed from the following resources. If you want more information about a particular topic, feel free to visit these links. Types of relationships https://www.uwyo.edu/dos/sexualmisconduct/healthy-relationships.html https://www.colorado.edu/ova/healthy-unhealthy-and-abusive-behaviors-relationships https://www.northwestern.edu/care/get-info/relationship-violence/healthy-and-unhealthy-relationships.html Whether to stay in a relationship https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-know-if-your-relationship-is-worth-saving-5190891 https://www.healthline.com/health/toxic-relationship#can-it-improve Healthy communication https://positivepsychology.com/communication-in-relationships/ https://sparqtools.org/lara/ https://wellbeingscounselling.ca/the-power-of-i-statements/ Boundaries https://positivepsychology.com/great-self-care-setting-healthy-boundaries/ https://dbt.tools/interpersonal_effectiveness/dear-man.php Self-care https://turningpointcare.com/blog/7-tips-for-practicing-self-care/ Staying in an abusive relationship https://knowmore.fsu.edu/helping-healing/why-victims-stay https://www.health.mil/Military-Health-Topics/Centers-of-Excellence/Psychological-Health-Center-of-Excellence/Real-Warriors-Campaign/Articles/5-Tips-for-Staying-Safe-in-an-Abusive-Relationship Safety plans https://www.dvccct.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/03/Domestic-Violence-Safety-Plan-DVCC-.pdf https://www.courts.oregon.gov/programs/family/domestic-violence/Documents/DVSafetyPlan.pdf Leaving an abusive relationship https://www.projectwomanohio.org/blog/navigating-the-exit-how-to-leave-an-abusive-relationship https://www.helpguide.org/relationships/domestic-abuse/getting-out-of-an-abusive-relationship 
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Mom's not listening to me and Canadian Thakisginv seating
by Disneywoman
Last post
 44 minutes ago
...See more So my mom is having an unlistening script today.  We have my sister's boyfriend over for supper. But ever since the two of them got together for turkey hoildays Sis insists on sitting next to her boyfriend on "my side" of the table.  So it means the one empty chair that is avaible is my sister's luna chair and  I feel trapped up there because If i want to leave i have to itnerput the conversation and ask them to move.  I would like to eat at the table but I don't want to eat at THAT spot.  The only other option is to load up my plate downstairs and bring my food up here which i don't want to do either,  I want to eat at the table.  With luna's previous boyfriend the boyfriend waas in that trapped spot,  Luna was still on my side of the table, Mom next to her and I could have Mom's spot.  Mom's also used the same broekn Easter script she used earlier this yer abutneeding to deal with food-what food?  All the food will be on the table by that point!   Heck having Dad up in that spot would be better option that way I could still have an easy way out but not be trapped on one side by my sister and her boyfriend,  and my dad on the other side.    And she promised she would thik about it.  But i should have known that means "no" it always does 
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love
by healingsecretsby02Ishita
Last post
 45 minutes ago
...See more Love is not chasing....but unconditionally coming💕
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Why is it so tough to move on?
by warmheartedPond7604
Last post
 1 hour ago
...See more I broke up with my girlfriend a few months ago. I initiated the break up because I was scared and didn't want to hurt her in future, idk what was going on in my mind. But then I started missing her, a lot. It's been a month, I cry at night, I can't focus on my work properly. Everything reminds me of her. I used to live 2hr away from her, but now it's just 20 mins, but I can never see her again. In every 1 2 days I feel like i'm getting over my break up, but then randomly something hits and i'm back at square 1. I think I really want her back but I'm not sure if she even has any feelings for me now. also I'm not sure if we have a permanent future together, It can be my lonelyness but I'm not sure. How to get over her? I can't live like this😭
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How to let go?
by warmheartedPond7604
Last post
 1 hour ago
...See more I had a really nice but short relationship, i loved her, i loved me. We never fought. It was never toxic, we both were considerate and deeply cared for each other. But then for some reason i thought it might not work. Just a gut feeling, and i didn't want to hurt her in future which would have been worse. So i initiated a break up. This happened 2 months ago, but then after some time i started missing her, and started feeling lonely, started crying. So i texted her, as i wanted to patch up things. We talked the whole night. Really great chat, but then she told me she's going out with a guy and she likes him. Then the memories kept getting more frequent. I feel lonely and down all the time. It's affecting everything. I love her and just wants her to be happy and for that I have to move on because I think i'll just be a hurdle in her life now. I have done enough damage. I don't want to make it worse for both of us, but i cannot stop remembering her. Everything reminds me of her, i really wish i had given it some more time. I know i' the wrong guy here. I just wish she get what she deserves and she definitely deserves someone better than me, someone who loves her, misses her like i'm doing it right now but with her. How to move on? How to let go of her?
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I’m unsure on how to get back into dating
by powerfulTurtle367
Last post
 6 hours ago
...See more I’m 17 y/o male, 18 in 2 months. I struggle to make friends and have addressed that as a separate issue. Over the last 3 years I’ve had two relationships where they’ve ended with a false accusation of sexual misconduct. The first deprived me of any interaction with them and then made an accusation so they’d be justified in cheating on me, the second had a pregnancy scare after we had consensual relations (she invited me over specifically to do it) and she used it as an excuse to avoid getting any blame from her parents before they bought her test. I do find a lot of enjoyment about being in a caring relationship with a girl where we can mutually trust each other and have deep conversations that we wouldn’t share with others as it makes me feel cared for. I always have liked that feeling of being chosen but I find that I can only get a relationship if I choose to interact with someone and that instantly reduces my choices. I just want someone to come to me and get to know me rather than me have to actively seek out someone who isn’t interested in a genuine connection. I know it would be easier if I hadn’t had things happen in the past but I am very guarded because I don’t want any repeats of these incidents. Is there any way I can circumvent these problems without completely removing my standards?
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Married and alone at the same time
by tiredmommy91
Last post
 16 hours ago
...See more I am so scared my marriage is going to end in divorce! I've been married for going on 5 years. My husband refuses to talk about anything going wrong in our marriage. He'd rather just ignore it and get all "lovey" like I didn't just tell him what is bothering me or what I need from him. I can't have a conversation with him because he says "he doesn't want to fight". Honestly, it turns into a fight because he just refuses to do anything to help the situation or, more often than not, makes promises that never happen. I feel like I'm just here to take care of the kids and do the things he doesn't want to do at home. I never get a break and close to no help from him with the kids. I don't want a divorce, I want to fix things! He says he doesn't want a divorce, but refuses to do anything to help fix things! I have been in a few bad relationships. One abusive and one very manipulative. He isn't abusive or manipulative, but this feels just as bad. I feel like I'm not being heard and I'm not being respected! I feel like he doesn't care about how I feel at all! I am so depressed and anxious all the time. Even my medicine for those things seem not to be helping so much. I feel like I'm drowning and nobody will throw me a life vest!
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Relationship
by DamaniJ
Last post
 16 hours ago
...See more You deserve consistency, not mixed signals.  
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Husband wants Ethical non monogamy
by imaginefuture18
Last post
 19 hours ago
...See more I’m so confused and feel very alone. I can’t share with any family or friends because I’m so ashamed. I’ve been in and out of hospital for self harm thoughts recently because I’m so down. My husband f 18 years, been together 22 since high school and have 3 children has just announced he orientates as someone who can love and maintain multiple women. He asked for permission to explore this as he wants to share our love with someone else. I’m devastated. I am completely monogamous and do not feel comfortable sharing my husband. He is Christian and I don’t believe this is something god would say is acceptable either. He says he wants to stay married and agreed to couples therapy but is now not wanting to attend until my mental health is better. I have told him to leave me because I do not agree with what he is asking and he says no but the trust is gone. What do I do?? Do I leave? Every time his phone goes off I panic inside. Every female I look at I compare myself with. I don’t feel safe emotionally. I’m working very hard on my own mental state but my heart is breaking every day. Every little comment he makes how I analyse. I can’t help it and it’s driving me crazy. I need help.
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Divorce and breakups
by helpfulLemon4942
Last post
 19 hours ago
...See more Can anyone help regarding a break up and divorce
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Healthy or Not
by loyalPlace3408
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 19 hours ago
...See more My last relationship was serious and committed on my part, but my ex partner was extremely toxic (DV) and caused me a lot of trauma from his actions. It’s been 2.5 years since we stopped dating and I’ve completely moved on. However, the trauma and memories of it are still painful. Anyway, now I’ve met a guy and he seems really steady, stable and reliable. The only problem is that I find this relationship, emotionally unfulfilling, and boring. We only talk once a week when we go on our date and he never texts me in between (unless it’s to tell me he bought a gift for me or plan the next date). Whenever he does text me It just seems really lazy. It’s really confusing because in person he seems to be putting a lot of effort, but even though I’ve tried to bring it up he doesn’t seem to want to increase the amount of communication or time we spend together. Honestly, he just seem totally fine without talking to me. He claims that his ex relationship was controlling and he feels better with more independence. I respect that am glad he shared. We’ve been going out for three months now and he started to want physical intimacy and I don’t. I also feel like we don’t even know each other because we talk so little. Now after my ex, I’m a big fan of the “let them” theory. So I won’t pursue someone who isn’t pursuing me back. That means that I won’t continue to text him if he doesn’t care to text me between dates. I know that when you leave a toxic relationship, a healthy one feels really boring sometimes but this just feels like there’s nothing there outside of the one night a week we see each other. I feel like you have to communicate more than that to have a relationship, but he disagrees. I guess I’m just not sure what to do because everything else about him is fine. He’s kind and communicates in person. He puts a lot of thought into dates and frequently buys me a little gifts. He clearly listens to what I say when we do talk because the things he does/buys me are usually about things I’ve told him. We seem to have the same values and agree on things pretty easily. This feeling of disappointment and boredom is so weird to me that I wonder, what if I’m the problem? Maybe I feel like my life isn’t fulfilling. But I like my hobbies and I enjoy the things that I’m pursuing right now. I have lots of goals. Before I met him, I felt really fulfilled in life, and I was actually quite surprised because I felt like everything finally fell into line. But now all of a sudden, I feel so purposeless and almost depressed like nothing really makes me happy or something. I guess I’m just wondering if anyone’s ever felt this way or been through something similar? I don’t really know why I feel this way all of a sudden. But what’s worse is that I don’t know what to do about it. I thought if something in your life feels wrong, you should fix it right?
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Wish I had someone to talk to on a daily basis
by emyelton2498
Last post
 19 hours ago
...See more I know this sounds like a selfish request…. But I really can’t take unpredictability in friendships. I made another post in the depression community along the same lines. I just wish I had someone who I can actually call a best friend and be able to talk to on a daily basis. I thought I had friends but all of them like to throw in my face that they “can’t talk to me all the time” it honestly makes me feel terrible that I ever bothered them with my presence. I like having deep conversations, pretty much have a lot of free time on my hands. Only time I wouldn’t respond is when I’m at work or sleeping. I really believe I’m just destined to be alone when I secretly crave a deep connection with another person….
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Being cheated on absolutely sucks
by X1Brad1X
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 19 hours ago
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